2006-08-14 16:24:33 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm not griping goldwing...I'm asking a simple psychological question, that I myself cannot answer...
2006-08-14 16:31:49 · update #1
OK jojo...grow up? When did my question deserve to be made fun of? If I wasn't grown up then I wouldn't be asking this question, TO LEARN WHAT OTHERS THINK.
2006-08-14 16:34:28 · update #2
Possibly that deep down you believe you are unworthy and deserves to be treated badly. Steer clear of those losers and stick with the good ones.
2006-08-14 16:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no. You've got the hurt-me thing happening. Stop it!
Ok, seriously, this is going to sound lie-down on the couchish, but its got a lot of value. Objectively look at the dynamics of your family growing up. Does one parent taking care of the other pop up? Were you or one of your sibs the kid who took care of the family? A lot of the time, there's past experience with a nice, helpful person who underneath really was either needy or angry about not having their needs fulfilled by the more agressive person. There's a manipulativeness to it that's hard to spot, but it sounds sorta like you might be doing it without being aware of it. Either that, or you're in high school and it's par for the course for many at that age. Anyway, can't hurt to examine your life for co-dependence, it's generally a learned thing.
PS -- just read your added comments. Idiots weigh in here. You do not need to be physically abused to be in an abusive relationship. If you are repeating the pattern and are seriously asking why, it's probably something pretty deep inside that might be a little more than most ppl can work thru on their own. LOL, you're too close to the subject if you know what I mean. Think about a licensed therapist. Plenty of gay friendly ones, you don't need to tell others about it, and besides there's no shame in wanting to gain greater insight into yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-14 16:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Bad boys, huh? It's good that you're aware of the situation, PVD. Because you've spotted the pattern, and can do something about it.
I don't know why you're attracted to them. Well, I think I might have a sense of why, but can't put it into words. Could it be that you're worried you'll fall in love? Or do you enjoy being abused for some reason?
Anyway... maybe what you need to do is to try hanging around only with guys who treat you well. It'll be better for you. 'Cause being around people who treat you like crap, take you for granted, don't appreciate you, is bad for you. Slow poison.
2006-08-15 01:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Luis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
History of abuse as a child? An abusive relationship between your parents??
These are common reasons why people end up in abusive relationships..
if this is a conscious decision then It may just be a personal preference. If it is a decision that often results in abuse ( of any form ) then its prolly stemming off either one of the issues I first mentioned or issues with self esteem.. either way unless it is a "bedroom" only interest then you may want to seek the assistance of a counselor...
Its ok to be attracted to bad ( aggressive ) boys... but it isnt ok to be abused... If you find you are putting yourself in situations where you are being abused then there is an issue that needs to be addressed
2006-08-14 16:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's easy, it's because you are immature, after you are tossed around for awhile you will realize that you can still care about someone who cares about you. Right now you don't respect yourself, so you figure no one else could like you, so you feel you deserve to be treated like bad, because you are. You'll come around as soon as you find something good in yourself, then those type of dudes will interest you no more, you'll see.
2006-08-14 16:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you like the "bad boy" deal....you will be back here griping and whining about how badly you are being treated once you catch one..good luck, dear...you will deserve what you get.
2006-08-14 16:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone loves a bad boy! My partner has the same qualities. Not that she's literally bad or a bad person. She's edgy, hot tempered, and has tough girl demeanor. She's been in and out of trouble in her younger years. It's one of the things that attracted me to her. Crazy, I know! But the bad boi persona is attractive!
2006-08-15 03:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of people who are like that I hear that the people just don't feel they deserve better. The bad boy complex.
Good luck with it - it is a hard pattern to break.
2006-08-15 07:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am gay and I have felt the same way before. Over time you become used to these "bad boys" and you become unhappy when you should be happy because you are missing the hostility. think of it as craving a menthol and smoking a plan cigarette. your body wants what it is used to.
2006-08-14 16:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by J.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If as you say you're unattracted to the guys that treat you well,does that make you a bad boy too lol ? Weird uh !
2006-08-14 16:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋