2006-08-14 16:21:11 · 22 answers · asked by Lori T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him you want a divorce. If he asks why, set all the empty bottles in front of him and say "Because I'm tired of sharing you with Jack, Ron, Effen, and Miller". If that doesn't get through, coming home to an empty house (no furniture, no kids, no wife) and a fresh bottle of his favorite in the middle of the floor with a note that says " I can't compete" will certainly do the trick.
2006-08-14 18:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jazzybinature 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it because his drinking has gotten violet? Caused him problem at work? More details? But chances are if you are feeling the way you are, it is because his drinking is out of hand, he either becomes violemt with you or has caused financial problems. Only way to confront the situation is face to face. Chances are without help the problem will not improve in its own. A guy can say, he will stop drinking since he does not want to loose you. Many women fall for this. However it is VERY unlikely to happen. Old dogs fall back to old habbits.
2006-08-14 23:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by legguy2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way I can think is for you to tell him that it has become a real problem. If he doesn't listen then leave for a few days, If that doesn't work then honey, i don't know what will.He will need to get therapy.
Not to make you feel bad or anything but my dad was an alcoholic when him and my mother were together. They got divorced, now he is with a woman who drinks right along with him. Their marriage is a real sucky one. Don't start drinking with him. It will only make things worst.
2006-08-14 23:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's NOT going to change unless YOU take ACTION. Words are cheap, but when you file papers - he might blink and wake up.
That means file for a separation. Insist on counseling to address the alcohol issues.
You cannot have a relationship with an alcoholic that refuses to get treatment.
Be prepared to move on if he is not serious about addressing the issue.
2006-08-14 23:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother had the same problem but she had had enought and popped him in the head with a cast irom frying pan he got the hint and hasen't smoked for over 45 years,, thought id share my story, not that im saying you should go that far, talk to him and if he blows you off you know he love his drinking more than his relationship with you move on and find a real man who will treat you right and respect you
2006-08-14 23:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did he start drinking? Did he drink when you met him? Did he drink when you dated him? Did he drink when you married him? Is the answer is yes to all of these.. then you have no right to complain about it now. Would you like him to change you? Why does it bother you now and it didn't bother you back when you first met him? I am sure he knows you don't like his drinking.. but he doesn't care. If you had children with this man knowing he drank you are just as bad a he is.
2006-08-14 23:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just quoting some very good advice I recently saw in a movie. If you tell him how you feel and he doesn't change, leave him, it means he doesn't care enough. But If you tell him and he at least tries for you, it would be worth it meeting him half way. When I heard this advice, I tried it and it works. You can really find out who your friends (and people who care about you)really are.
2006-08-14 23:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who's been there...you can't. He broke every promise he ever made to me. He broke my heart everytime I heard a beer can open. If I wanted to see him when I got off work, I had to go to the bar. I really feel for you. We ended up in divorce and while it's been tough...it's been for the best. As far as I know...he still drinks....that's what his paychecks are going towards. It's a sad existance.
2006-08-14 23:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by ksn_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did:
I filed for divorce. The lawyer suggested we try counseling, he even set us up an appointment with a councilor out of town, as my ex "demanded".
The councilor talked to him...then me..then we all three talked together. In one visit he came right out and told my Ex he was an alcoholic...boy!! was someone livid. He told the councilor he was crazy, he told me I was a liar, he threatened to sue the councilor for defamation of character and he stormed off and left me at the clinic alone.
Needless to say I got my divorce.
2006-08-14 23:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him when he is straight and talk nice about it but firm.Make sure he realizes what he is doing.My husband drinks and gets out of hand on/off and he knows he has a problem with it .I tell him the rules of this house and he makes a choice.So its important to stand your ground .normal people dont put up with it!
2006-08-14 23:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋