and then he hides it and lies about it.. What should I do Should I leave him because he is snecky and lies.. I caught him doing it one time. And there was a big fight its not that i mind the porn it is just it seems he wants to watch it by himself. Could this be me not doin something right (Im a Ninfo) So what more could i do
2006-08-14 16:04:49 · 36 answers · asked by scloflin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have alot of Porn and the big thing is he dont like to have sex I think i am a very pretty woman and sexy. I like freaky stuff. The porn is fine its the lies I tell him I would like to watch with him he dont seem to want to watch. I asked him if he wanted another woman to join us he said he dont want to see me with anyone ealse but him. IM not understanding
2006-08-14 16:27:47 · update #1
Leave Playgirl mags all over the house. Download pics of super-hot guys and use them as your background on your computer. Stare at these men for hours at a time. Talk about how HOT they are. Analyze and check out their biceps, butts, package, etc.
Act disinterested in bed when he comes on to you.
Go back to looking at Playgirl and drool.
Maybe then he'll get a clue.
2006-08-14 16:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-17 14:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this may come as a surprise to you since I'm a woman. I used to download porn too when I was married before. The reason why I did it? Simply because it turns me on and it is entertaining. The reason why you're hubby is not getting the entertainment from you instead of the porn? Probably because you're not good and ready when he's feeling like entertaining himself. But, the truth is, he does enjoy having sex with you. He just also enjoys watching pornography, which is extra entertainment on the side. He gets to watch certain specific sex that he will never have with you. So, maybe if you want, you could ask him questions like "honey, what kind of sex are you really into? Maybe we should try it." Maybe then he'll turn to you more often instead of the porn. Otherwise, I'm not sure what to tell you except he's only into porn to see extras.
2006-08-14 16:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by angelolori1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men just like to look at other woman and all the creative crap they come up with in the porn industry. you've done nothing wrong, it's a mind game for them to watch and possibly try later. porn can be a huge problem in marriages sometimes. do you know about Kirk Franklin, the gospel music artist? well, he admitted to having an addiction to porn (while being married with kids) his wife is very pretty and he has a good life, it's just one o those things that you may need to work through with your hubby. Ask to watch some with him just to get him to let you in on the fact that he actually watches it and downloads it, maybe he won't have to lie about it anymore, then go from there to let him know how you feel about it.
2006-08-14 16:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common for men to look at porn! You would be amazed how many married men look at porn and masterbate to it.You cannot take this personally .It has nothing to do with you.It wouldnt matter if you were the best looking ect,They will still do it.If you keep nagging about it he will want it more,like a little kid.Use the reverse on him ,.You need to accept the porn and not get upset.Then just stay quiet about it .If you dont you wont win! So it woud be a dumb reason for you leaving.The next chic will probley let him look at it!
2006-08-14 16:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some porn is probably quite natural. However it can become addictive. The behaviors you describe are very like the behaviors of an addict or alcoholic. If it interferes with normal living it might be a problem. Be careful, the strongest relationships begin to unravel starting with the littlest deceptions. You might try to find persons with a similar problem, if your husband wants to stop.
2006-08-14 16:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown Oscillator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is download some lesbian porn that you think is hot and get naked in front of the computer right before you know he is going to use it and start masturbating to the hot lesbo porn just in time for him to "catch you in the act". he will love this. this will give you guys something in common,it will make him temporarily loose all interest in porn and regain interest in you, and it will make you feel alot more risky and sexy and all that. there is nothing wrong with porn and it is a good thing to use to spice up one's sex life.
2006-08-14 16:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by QuizTheOneWithoutOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem here? Your a Nimfo and he likes porn. Sound to me like your even. Maybe you should start watching yourself. Let him see how it feels but then he good turn out to be a nimfo too. Then the problems really start. Maybe loo at it this way, He's NOT CHEATING ON YOU ONLY WITH ROSEY PALM AND HER 5 SISTERS. What the heck, let the man go.
2006-08-14 16:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by suzie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like looking at women naked or not. It has nothing to do with you. Try telling him that you would like to watch as well. Tell him it bothers you that he likes to watch porn by himself and that you would like to watch it with him. Go to an adult movie store and rent one that both of you might like. Guys also like to watch it and relieve some tention without having to do some work. Think of it this way at least he is not cheating. Have fun
2006-08-14 16:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out what kind of porn he's downloading. Gay, S&M, child pornography? Figure it out... if it's child pornography you need to get him help. S&M see if you can help out in that area. Gay porn.... have a nice long talk about who your husband is. And further more, seek marriage counselling. He should be channeling his sexual desires towards you not porn on the internet.
2006-08-14 16:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋