a good friend of mine is going through a divorce which seems to be taking quite some time. She has two children and now lives about 112 miles from her soon to be ex. she is dating other men and he is seeing other women. is it wrong for her to date without being legally divorced, should she put her life on hold until everything is finalized or go on with her life and continue dating?
2006-08-14 16:02:31 · 9 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
since i know her situation, somewhat from the beginning, I can see why she wants to date though I don't know his side of the story. I just wanted input since I may be biased as to what she should do when she asked for my opinion.
2006-08-14 16:18:00 · update #1
Life doesn't stop because some paperwork is holding it up. Let her date. It's over between her and the ex, it's just not finalized through the system. Be happy for her that she's found someone else willing to accept her and her children. And stop focusing on what is morally right here. If we were all to be morally correct, there'd be no such thing as divorce. But it's not a perfect world and these things happen. We have to learn to be a little more accepting of human nature. It also wouldn't hurt to ask yourself what you would do in her situation either.
2006-08-14 16:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she should not have moved 112 miles away from her husband. The children are his too. Your "good" friend is not a very good person. What difference does it make to tell her what she should be doing (morally and legally) she is not going to do it. Her life is all about her and no one else. Not her children, not the father of her children and not the men she is entertaining. But just to let you know... she is a s*l*u*t and should at least wait until the ink in dry.
2006-08-14 23:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its something personal, but in my case when I was getting divorced i did not date or go out because I was in a process of healing. I only wanted to be alone.
And, I also think that if the divorce isn't really finalized it is adultery.
2006-08-14 23:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dulcinea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I don't think she should be dating until her children are old enough to date themselves (16 years old). She'll be teaching them promiscuity whether she thinks so or not. Her kids will think at age 11 it's ok to date. It's really unfortunate that her relationship with her ex didn't work out. Now she should be focused on her kids.
2006-08-14 23:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage is done for. They both know that. The legal system being slow to confirm something they both know shouldn't stop them from getting on with their lives. No worries.
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2006-08-14 23:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage is effectively over without the divorce being finalised - so why not?
2006-08-14 23:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by jbabee22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my state, if you date while you are still legally married, then it is considered adultery. She needs to check the laws in her state.
2006-08-14 23:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by boo66_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking for advice on your friends life? If you were her true friend you would tell her what you think, not what others think.
2006-08-14 23:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by FranDanDame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and yes !!!!!!!!
2006-08-14 23:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋