My husband is saying jokes in front of the kids that I don't find funny and when I tell him that it does hurt me he says I always take things to personally. He does it all the time though. He doesn't actually care about what I say and he is always right.. Any advice.
2006-08-14 15:40:33 · 13 answers · asked by moonspawnhotmailcom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am going through the same thing right now and he says i need to cheer up and learn how to take a joke but it isn't funny at all and it is getting to the point my kids are repeating what he says and truly i want to leave and am working on that now if we were being loved by our men they wouldn't treat us this way and we only live once so we deserve to be happy.
2006-08-14 15:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by nothing n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup--Marriage counseling because that sounds like a communication problem. Someone else lika a "professional" may need to validate your feelings to your husband since he has it in his head that you are being "over-sensitive". The longer you let it go, the worse it may get. If you are uncomfortable at all ;in your relationship, something is unacceptable- Whether or not you are being sensitive (which is not a bad thing) you are unhappy with something and that is not what a relationship is about. And who knows, you may come out of the eperience closer and happier than you ever thought the two of you could be??Good Luck!!
2006-08-14 22:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off all I would sit him down and have a serious heart to heart and tell him exactly how and why his jokes make u feel and why u are so hurt by them. Secondly, its never ok to think that he can make fun of u or vice versa infront of the kids. Respect is a key element in a marriage if he keeps disrespecting u...give him examples of how he would feel if u said certain things. I think u may think he is ALWAYS RIGHT or he thinks he's always right....no one's eva 100% right.Give ur self more credit and step up and defend ur self.
2006-08-14 22:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Confused4life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one hit home. I've been a "housewife" for a little over a year and decided to go back to work so I can get the hell out of here. He does it to his friends and they just laugh and think it's funny. It may be meant as a joke but it has put me into tears too many times and I'm tired of it
2006-08-14 23:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind games, mind games. Tell your husband if it hurt full things don't stop, you'll be filing for divorce. Why stay with a person who doesn't respect your feeling or doesn't give you respect. I bet he also says " I knew you were going to say that, or reticules you on anything you say or do. Time to kick him to the curb. You don't want your kids picking up on his rude behavior. You want to raise good healthy mental kids.
2006-08-15 08:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by crafty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to establish a way to introduce dialoge in your marriage. IF there is someone he would listen to, like a Priest, Pastor, Best Friend, brother, etc.. would be a good way to get him to sit down and explain how he hurts your feelings and how damaging this will be to your kids who will grow up thinking is the right thing to do.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-14 22:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Shaki_smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband does it too, even infront of friends. It gets kinda embarassing sometimes. Don't you know that he is right though. I can't seem to finad a way to make him stop. If you find out, let me know.
2006-08-14 22:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really explain the jist of the jokes. You implied they were against you in which case I would say pack and scat. Once he sees you are serious, he may take you seriously. Good luck.
Vaya con DIOS
2006-08-14 22:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its emotional abuse. I dealt with it for 7 years. If you can get him to admit its a problem the counseling may work but more than likely he wont see it and the best choice is to get out!!!!!
2006-08-14 22:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be considerded mental abuse and it is not safe for your kids to see that. You should either leave him or try to go to councelinng with or without him
2006-08-14 22:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋