Today I was sitting on a wall with my best (girl) friend (my crush) and another friend and I wanted to get closer to her, but it seemed kinda weird. At one point she put her bent arm out and leaned on my shoulder, but I think I'm just really bad at this stuff. How should I do it (arm on shoulder, round waist/shoulder, hold hands) without seeming like a total idiot? I feel like if I just do it , it would be weird. I hope you understand what I mean, and I would appreciate any tips.
2006-08-14 15:15:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to find out if she likes you or not, ask one of her friends if she likes you. she will of course cover for her and say what is best for her friend. then regardless of what she says, tell her how you feel about your crush. tell her not to tell her. and naturally, she will. that's when you start looking for signs. they're not that subtle. if she likes you, she'll try to get a bit closer to you, but expect you to make your move. then you're set. if she doesn't like you, she'll grow apart from you, showing you that she wants to remain friends. if that's the case, then go back to the friend who squealed on you, and tell her that you though you liked her, but you found out you really didn't. that way she'll tell your crush, and things can go back to the way things were. then you can wait until she's ready. bonne chance!!
2006-08-14 21:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by and so it begins... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-14 23:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perception is reality. If you think that it will be ackward, it probably will be. If she is such a good friend, start out with little things, like cracking a joke and giving her a little tap on the arm or side. or if you ever come up behind her but the hands on her shoulders. Start being a hug guy. Everytime you see her and every time you say goodbye give a hug. Little things like that. This way she gets used to you touching her. It wont seem weird if you build up a tolerance, so to speak. That will get you started. Eventually if you want it to go somewhere, you have to make a move. You need to let her know that you are interested in more. See how she responds.
2006-08-14 22:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by mildmanneredclarkkent64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I would've done. Don't be too obvious. If she leans on your shoulder and you want to touch her back, you could've put 1 hand on her leg or something. No need to reach out and put an arm around her. Any slight physical contact is enough no need to overload. Then after this, you can go a little further when you feel more comfortable. How about next time you guys are walking side by side and you want to open a door for her, place the palm of your hand on the small of her back reach out with the other and open the door... simple slight contact stuff... but she will feel it and will be comfortable for when you have more contact with her
2006-08-14 22:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes wearing pants, put your hand gently on her thigh, if your sitting next to her, dont leave it there forever, and no groping.
You could also touch her hair and move it off her shoulder.
Next time if she leans on you like that put your arm on her back and give it a few rubs then stop.
Slowly ease into it, a little at a time. When you see her and you talking reach out and touch her arm when you say hi ( right above the elbow.
2006-08-14 22:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think if she put her head on your shoulder she wants some more attention from you. i think she may have a crush on you. next why dont you put your arm around her shoulder and/or lean your head on her head. i had a best guy friend and he always did stuff like that and i never did anything and he even asked me out but i said no on impulse. he is now going out with a total ***** who doesnt deserve him so just go ahead and flirt back on her before she has a boyfriend.
2006-08-14 22:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by I Love You.....♪♫♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to making any sort of move is seeming fluid in your actions. If you are going to put your arm around her shoulder (that's my suggestion in your scenario), when she leans against you.... lean slightly back against her... let her know that you aren't "stiff" and "unreceptive". I dont mean...put your weight on her....just make sure you aren't being "weird" about it. When you do... just put your arm around her...and keep talking. If you stop talking and put your arm around her.... its much more noticeable... and odd. if you do it while talking...its a seemless transition. Good luck
2006-08-14 23:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, I would just wait it out for a while...Trust me..If you make a move, and she doesn't respond...well....lol...it sucks...Best advice is to wait for a DEFINITE signal before you go leaping into this and do something you both are going to regret...but don't worry, you will know when the time comes to make a move, but if it never does...there's probably a reason...and that reason is...."she just likes you as a friend"
2006-08-14 22:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by quarterback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are taller put your arm around her shoulder
if you are like bout the same height or shorter around the waist
and if you feel uncomfortable with both just hold hands
2006-08-14 22:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by texas_hottie_1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u guys are touchy feely, chances are she is feeling ur vibes and probably is attracted to u too. Tell her or show how ur feeling. Don't wait to long or someone else will sweep her off her feet.
2006-08-14 22:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋