wife cheated and i forgave her but still having thoughts of leaving but i don't really want to how to get rid of thoughts
2006-08-14 15:10:30 · 11 answers · asked by drknmky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get some marriage counselling and some private therapy, then see what happens
2006-08-14 15:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by vegigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that your having these thoughts because how loyal can your wife be if she cheated on you? And who says it's not going to happen again? So maybe if you are having these strong thoughts or feelings then you should tell her how you feel and you never know things could work out. But keep an eye out.
2006-08-14 22:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my husband 3 years ago a brief affair, he said he forgave me but he has recently cheated on me I guess I have to forgive him right?? If you really love each other it will take a long time and alot of talking and time.....If you want to stay together try to work it out.
2006-08-18 20:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by fetter_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is one thing...
Forgetting is a whole different ball game...
You need to talk. Get it out of your system. The main reason your thinking of leaving is because you can't shake the image in your head of her past discretion and possible future ones, so you want to run and run fast. But logic and love is holding fast and strong in you which means you must want to do something. So get some help, professionally if you can afford it, and do it now before this festers like a sore and gets worse.
2006-08-14 22:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that explains why she said she just 'settled' for you. She will continue to cheat, do you really want to keep supporting a woman and have her living in your house that is with another man, and wants to be with him instead of you? She is USING you. It's hard I know but you can't let her use you like this, no matter how much you still love her.
2006-08-14 22:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you will get smart and leave the next time she cheats. And she will. If she hasn't, again, already.
Sorry, I find out the hard way, just go.
2006-08-14 22:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are really in one big trouble if you're still having doubts depite that you gave her another chance. Sort it out within you. Could you still trust your woman? Is she still worth your trust? If you think you could answer all these questions, then you know what to do.
2006-08-14 22:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the trust that is going away, it is hard and impossible sometimes to forgive and forget, but if there is something that you are fighting for (e.g. Kids, love) have to give special treatment to her, show how important she is to you and you always be there for her whatever happens. and past is past
2006-08-14 22:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by purple heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now
2006-08-15 00:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by TOPKICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have been lied to about something like that, its hard to forget.
2006-08-14 22:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋