My grandpa is 76 & his girlfriend is 54 & she moved in with him a few months ago.?

Question

I go to visit him & meet his girlfriend. Keep in mind, my grandma died 2 years ago after 50 years of marriage to my grandpa.
Well, grandpa has all new furniture in his house & she & my grandpa are sleeping in my grandma's room. The girlfriend has access to his bank accounts (it appears from the favorite places that are bookmarked).
So he is talking about marrying this chick. I am not being greedy & I know it shouldn't be any of my business, however if something were to happen to him, & they were married, she would prevail unless he has a will. I don't care about any monitary gain, but I am concerned for my grandpa.
So I guess my ? is how in the heck do we talk him into drawing up a prenup or a will just so those family members (I'm talking about his kids) with "seniority" do not get the short end of the stick of everything my grandma & grandpa worked so hard for all their lives?

First off, you people need to read between the lines...I AM NOT BEING GREEDY!! HELLO?!

Answer 1

You seem to think that you won't be getting anything either way so you're the right person to bring it up. Just tell him that you don't want the famity to get torn apart by any surpises.

Answer 2

I know how you feel, but sadly it's not your money and you can't count it until it is. I think that a prenup might be a good idea if he has a substantial amount of money, and perhaps you could bring that up in a general way, but at 76 he has been handling his affairs for a very long time and he could live another 25 years easy if he is in good shape. Better you tell him to exercises regularly and eat healthy and enjoy a very long life with his new friend. It is your love that will get him to remember you in his will, not your shallow and transparent advice to him. You just come off looking like greedy grandchildren.
No one should reach the end of their life alone. He was there for your grandma and now maybe (if its right) this chick could be there for him. You should be there for him too. I know that this is unsettling to you. If you need to talk to your Grandpa, talk to him about what's best for him. Not what's best for you. Take care and good luck.

Answer 3

This is a really touchy subject. I don't think there is any rigth or wrong answer. Whatever you do I would find a moment where you can talk to grandpa alone when his g/f is not around. Tell him your concerns. If you are lucky he ma surprise you. It is possible that he already has a will, it is also possible that he was already goin to have a prenup. And it;s also possible that he intends to split the money evenly amongst all.... you won't know until you ask. Just be honest with him, i'm sure he will appreciate that you care.

Answer 4

It's really not your problem. Just try and make sure that grandpa is happy and aware of what he's doing. You could do a background check on the woman, see if she's got any outstanding problems that you should be suspicious of. Otherwise, it's between you looking like a greedy heir, and the gold digger getting everything.
Up to you as to how you talk to gramps about it.

Answer 5

Ditto! Your Grandma and Grandpa worked for what is left now. Try talking to your Grandpa, he may have taken care of things already. Like it or not, his happiness is at stake here. I heard once, that it is a compliment to the one who has passed, if the one remaining needs companionship.
Give your Grandpa credit! He didn't make it 76 years being stupid.

Answer 6

I understand your worry and I know it is because you care for your Grampa. My advice, talk to him take him out on his own for a nice evening share your feelings. Just take care in how you bring this up,he cares for this lady. Having been with someone for as many years as he it is very hard to be alone. It has nothing to do with his deep love for your late grama. Just tell him that you love him and need to feel secure in knowing that he knows this women enough to trust her with his life. I am no fan of "prenups" to have to sign one means in my opinion you do not know this person well,you are not really thinking of the better and for worse part. If I felt compelled to write one up I would not get married. He should have a will made up as well as a living Will to take care of things before the main will is read ,should he pass. Talk to him soon it the only way to settle your mind. Take care, all the best
PS keep in mind he is an adult so choose your words compassionately when you present this to Grampa
~A~

Answer 7

Nope...not your business. Forget about the money. You are certainly within your rights to mention it to grandad, if you guys have a close relationship, kinda like, "Hey, Grandpa...you know this lady and you, are you sure it's for the long haul?" But really, how do you even ask without sounding tacky? Why do his grandkids have any right to that money? He's alive, and spending it on his companion. If he wanted to spend it on the kids, he would.
Just forget it...the fact that you even had to ask how to go about saying something shows that you know it reeks of greediness. You should wish her and your grandpa the best, and tell him to enjoy all of the money he worked hard for, and to die BROKE.

Answer 8

Talk to one of his kids(your parents, aunt, uncle) about talking to him about a will. They can use your grandma's death as a reason to bring it up.."death is unexpected, better to take precautions, take care of business while you can, etc". Besides that, even if you are not liking this woman, it sounds like your grandpa does. Shouldn't he enjoy the rest of his life how he pleases? Many elderly widows do not hook up or re-marry again, but they should if they want. He's not the one who died.

Answer 9

Just have a heart to heart with him. Tell him you would feel alot better if he had a will drawn up. That way she cannot leave all involved out in the dust. That way when a will is in order you can start to enjoy his new soon to be wife. There will be no (maybe's) in the way. You never know if she is in it for the gold and he tells her what he wants to do with the will she just may leave. If she is not in it for the money she won't have a problem with his wishes and you can let your guard down.Good luck

Answer 10

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