I have never been with a woman and think its wrong when I really get to thinking about it. But when I am alone and am..you knowing with myself...all I can think of is women. Why is this? I have had these thoughts since I was 15. Im 24 now. And married and could never tell him...i mean its not that I dont love him and like men..its just i have these urges to be with certain women. Why is this?
2006-08-14 15:01:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You're not gay. You're bi.
2006-08-14 15:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Phil S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because you are attracted to them and you are married because you love your husband and in the world we are living in does not approve of two women and two men and you probably did not want to go through the problems it would cause. I'd have to say 8 years is a very long time to fantasize about women.
2006-08-14 22:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Necole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its because you are bisexual. You can try as hard as you want to surpress your feelings but it will get you to where you are now..confused. You may have feelings for these certain women because you are attracted to them and sometimes the more you try to hide/deny to yourself..the more the urge becomes. Its hard now that you're married but i bet you're wondering ...what if i just tried it once..to get it outta my system before i was married.
it probably wld have lifted a weight off our shoulders.
If your relationship with your husband is good..then tell him..he will prob understand.. you dont have to act it out.
But its your call.
2006-08-15 13:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by twisted_goddess_x 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the same feelings,until I was 35,when I finally acted on them. Nothing wrong with having feelings,nothing wrong with not telling your partner about the feelings,long as you don't act on them without your partner knowing. I was divorced and single at the time. If you told your man,you'd be surprized at the end result,lol. Most want to just "watch." as if,lol. When/if your curiosity gets the better of you,don't beat yourself up for it,just know people are the way they are,nothing more,nothing less,and good luck
2006-08-14 22:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why you think about women, but if you think that this could be hurting your marriage, then I think you should tell your husband.
2006-08-14 22:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one (well, almost no one) is 100% "gay" or 100% "straight", we just get turned on by what and who turns us on. Personally, I prefer women over 40; we all have our "triggers" if you will. Nothing wrong with window-shopping, just be honest with your partner if you choose to act on it; there is of course something wrong with deceit. If it's just a fantasy I say enjoy it and don't worry too much about it.
2006-08-14 22:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Satan's elf 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i think in truth we all just wonder about what it would be like i know that i do sometimes to so yeah if u need someone to talk to i am here.
2006-08-14 22:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because women are able to go both ways with being burned at the stake
2006-08-14 22:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could probably turn out to be bi.
If not, that would mean you would
leave your husband if you are gay.
You'll soon find out.
2006-08-14 22:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont think nothing about it your not a lez or even bi your straight ok
2006-08-14 22:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be a repressed lesbian or bi.
Tammi Dee
2006-08-14 22:09:46 · answer #11 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋