Is it right that hubby put his paycheck into direct dep.in bank I am not included in? He put his name in mine!

Question

His deceasd wife was in this account out of state am not allowed to be in it is this right? Also I paid for catering out of income tax check and wedding cake not knowing he had plenty of monies in his other account. he asked me to HELP him with these expenses. then when we filed taxes this January I did not get any return back because of his income for the first time in 13 years ! Do I have a right to be upset ? He exclaimed Baby girl wer'e married now ! Been married 1 year and 5 months now. Only serious answers please.

Answer 1

and why did you marry this guy, you could just had called him daddy instead.

Answer 2

Many relationships suffer from the money issue.

If you feel treated unfair then this needs to be discussed with him and you guys need to find a solution.

You can decide to manage your money jointly or separately. It seems he wants to have his own portion and not share - but then you should do the same.
How about this idea: You both have your individual accounts where you manage your money separately.
But in addition you open ONE account which belongs to both of you. And you both contribute regularly to this account. This account is sued to pay the costs of the mutual living, food, rent or mortgage, restaurants etc. Tax bills.

And the rest could go to either ones individual accounts. If he socks money away into his own account then let him pay in future his personal bills.

Just make sure you get the same right as he wants for himself.

Answer 3

Open your own checking acct and DO NOT ever sign any loans/credit cards taken out in both names.

Try to obtain credit in your name only.

Document all marital expenses that you pay for. Bills, copies of checks from your acct.

Keep your legal documents separate from his and keep them in reach.

Do not pay for the expenses that are in his name only.

He appears to want the benefits of marriage without having to respect the covenant of marriage.

You are equal under the law. But, you need to protect yourself none the less.

Answer 4

I would suggest opening a separate account, in your name only, and having YOUR check deposited in it. If he doesn't like it, suggest that a joint account be created, with all (or most) of everyone's money going into it.

Answer 5

I personally think that the finances in marriage should be shared and that each partner should have access. If he has access to your accounts then you should have access to his accounts.