Bribes for good grades?

Question

I've read just recently that parents are bribing their children to get good grades with money, tech toys and even cars. My mother's theory for good grades was that if I got them she wouldn't kick my butt.

Are these bribes teaching our children the right thing, that you'll get what ever you want by doing what you should be doing anyway?

Answer 1

For me, my mom's just the same. Although I'm still in school, I don't get any special rewards from my parents or anything like that and I get plenty of good grades.

The best way to teach children the best thing (in my opinion), is to give them a good ol' guilt-influencing lecture. Kind of sadistic, but as a current high school student, I think it's right for those about to enter junior high. In elementary, telling kids that you're going to work for the nerds if you don't get good grades is kind of depressing. But if you tell junior high school kids, I think it'll work.

But if you're thinking of a positive thing, tell them of how they will reap in awards, be respected, the works.

As for me, I'm getting awards and recognition (not from my parents). My mom's strict words, although it might you feel a bit unloved at times, it really helps in the future.

Answer 2

This is wrong. I knew that my children always tried their hardest, and what they got is the best they could do (a's, b's, and c's. though very few c's came along). I don't think that parents should need to bribe them now, but it's really getting to that. My grandson slacks and skips all the time. I don't ever talk to him about it because it's not my business, but my daughter tells me about it all the time. He's 13 and in the 7th grade. But he has been doing this since 5th grade. My daughter does have to bribe him for going to school even and getting atleast something above a D.

I can't believe that kids are turning into this: Lazy Couch Potoatoes. All those game systems, all the TV shows, all the bad attitudes going around. The game systems is just making everyone's brains turn into mush. My other grandson is 8 and is glued to the TV and his gameboy. I have told my son that he needs to get his child off this but they can't. He kicks, screams, hits, and they just give him everything back.

I cannot believe that parents are just letting their children go out of control. School is very important, but bribing is wrong.

WHO AGREES?

Answer 3

Well I think that it really doesn't matter if you bribe your kids or not because I was never bribed and I still wanted gfood grades for mysellf. Long talks with your kids will give em' some act right so don't believe that bribing a child willalways make em' have good grades. It could possibly be true though.

Answer 4

theyre not teaching children the way things actually work. in real life, they're not going to get those things they're bribed with so easily. they will assume they have to only do one easy little thing and theyll get whatever they want just so easily. like, if a mother bribes her daughter to get good grades with a tiffany bracelet, the daughter will think that with just a little work she'll get exactly what she wants. but if she babysat, she wouldnt be able to work only for a couple of hours and be able to get that same bracelet. she would have to work for a couple of days to earn the money to buy that bracelet. it doesn't teach true hard work. it's like getting an allowance for not doing anything. its pointless. the kid will expect it just because. they'll easily become brats, which aren't all that fun to babysit, i must say.

Answer 5

we shouldn't have to bribe our kids to get them to want to become more intelligent.
i will not be using this method.
i wouldn't tell the kids about the incentive until after i've seen some good study habits beforehand.
we reward good behavior, when the good behavior doesn't need an incentive.
i don't think bribing the children is teaching them good morals.
besides, after they get that car or whatever, what's to say the grades won't slip?

Answer 6

That's the worst idea I've ever heard. Bribing children for doing what they are supposed to do is ridiculous. what kind of monsters are we creating? When my children get good grades I congratulate them, give them a hug and a kiss and maybe we go out for a special treat. I could get them expensive gifts if i wanted to, but I don't, because I don't want them to get the wrong idea.

Answer 7

certain! at the same time as i become in grade 6 my mom instructed me that she will be in a position to provide me 20 funds for each A i'm getting on my report card, so i finished up getting 6 As on my report card and made 100 and twenty $! the component become that become the most As iv ever gotten on a report card so i become inspired to target my astounding. And it purely supplies children a concept of what actual artwork is like, do tremendous get more than a number of money, do undesirable and dont make any.

Answer 8

I totally agree. Sometimes kids need to realize that this is their parents caring for them.

Parents main only gain minimal satisfaction from seeing their children receive good marks, but more importantly, if you child wants to be ambitious and pursue things like higher education you want to let them know that before you start showing them cash or Porsches.

If the child is in high school, they should know better. If the child is in Middle School / Junior High -- the parents should be trying to instill solid study habits -- not -- if you do well, (which you should) you will be rewarded.

That's my thought anyways.

Answer 9

that's paying them for doing what they're supposed to be doing anyway! i say ground them on grades below c, time depending on d+, d, d-, or f and how many. maybe give them a dollar for all a's and b's, and five dollars for straight a's. if they get straight a's for all year, give them something they really want but don't have, and just don't tell them you were going to. instead of bribing for neccesities, this shows you get rewards for doing what you're supposed to and doing more than just a half-@$$ed job.

Answer 10

I got paid a couple bucks for good grades sure, and was never even spanked. I was never in trouble, graduated with honors, am now an upstanding citizen with 9 years of college behind me and I still love and respect my parents very very much.