2006-08-14 14:27:57 · 60 answers · asked by whyohwhy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We need more information to be able to give you worthwhile advice. WHAT did your fiance lie about? WHAT was his reaction when he learned that you knew -- was he angry, defensive, regretful, etc.? HOW did you find out about lie? And has he ever lied to you BEFORE?
Please don't waste your time (or ours) with such vague questions that don't provide anything to base our answers on. I wish you good luck with your relationship, but I honestly can't offer any advice without knowing more about your and your fiance's personal situation.
2006-08-14 14:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by scary shari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the nature of the lie? How serious was this lie? How necessary was it? was it extremely harmful to you? to a friend? to a relative? to an enemy for that matter? could it get someone into trouble?
What if you were married to him already how would this lie affect the relationship? how much do you know him as a person? the reality is that no relationship is perfect and all and I mean ALL of us tell lies sometimes in our lives. Therefore, we should not make the decision based on the one time situation. your decision to trust him after that will depend on how much you know trust and respect him.
Finally remember this: to tell is human but to forgive that liar is divine. Marry him
2006-08-14 14:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already doubting and saying can you still believe him. That means that you are not trusting him now. You should not marry someone that you don't trust, but we all have to have our own life experiences. Unless that person changes majorly, he will continue to lie. I know people who have had horrible relationships, separated, got themselves together as individuals, and then ended up being together,happily, but they both changed.
Remember that actions speak louder than words, on your part and his part (if you automatically take him back after he's lied to you you are showing him that he can do that) Good Luck and I wish you the best!
2006-08-14 14:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by caramel_angelkiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE NEVER SAID HE WAS A CHEATED,,, WHY DOESN'T ANYBODY EVER READ THINGS PROPERLY
just because he lied does not mean you should not marry him,
i bet you have told a lie before to someone, and i bet you have given then a second chance, now i don't no what the lie is, but honey if have come this fare that you want to marry that man if that is the worst that has ever happened, then you are doing great. give him a go to explain himself.....just think have you ever told him a lie???? even just a little white lie maybe???????????
2006-08-14 14:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by chloeshotspot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the lie.. if it is a lie on his faithfulness.. then u can the check whether you are willing to open ur heart and forgive him, if not, then dun marry him, u have to make the choice and never look back. IF it is an issue on his family that he lied to you about.. then you can talk to him on this and find out why.. then decided on it.
2006-08-14 14:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by veramira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, he lied to you and your not even married yet?
You think he will be BETTER when you marry?
Wake up and smell the coffee! You have seen what he is really like. If he respected you he would not lie to you.
2006-08-14 14:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on the lie. Did he lie about not having sex recently with another woman ; then dump him quickly. If he lied about having a relationship with an old girlfriend of yours many years ago. That's forgivable I think.
2006-08-14 14:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by yuvid6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he lie about? How often has he lied to you? How do we know if you can believe him...we know NONE of the story except that a guy you are presumably engaged to, has lied to you at least once.
2006-08-14 14:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the lie was and if you can trust him again!
If was a minor lie and you feel that you can truly forgive him and trust him without throwing it back in his face then it's worth it to work it out. But if it was a major lie and unforgivable and forgettable then best cut your loses now.
If your wedding date is set and coming soon maybe you should postpone the wedding until you can think it through.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-14 14:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. Thats the major key. No you should not marry someone if they betrayed you. First work on building back that trust before you tie the knot.
2006-08-14 14:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lady A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋