is giving your virginity away before marraige a good thing or should the person wait until they are married?

Answer 1

That's such an individual decision, no one's advice should matter. It should be what you feel in your heart. Some like to have had that "experience" out of the way before getting into such a major relationship, so you can perfect it together. But, my advice is absolutely DON'T do it just to "do it". Make it matter, whether it's with someone you're married to or not.

Answer 2

Marraige is just an agreement - you give your vaginity away when you feel good and ready, with someone you love and trust. That has nothing to do with the legal contract of marraige. In my experience, if you are not sure if you are ready, then you are not ready.

As a quick side issue, don't expect the experience to be mind blowing. It gets better the more you do it with that special person!

ps: Someone elses answer raised a good point - sex is a big part of a relationship - think seriously about marrying someone you haven't 'tried out' first. It could be a disaster.

Answer 3

Ma y I ask you this: what final proof do you have that he will marry to you after giving him your virginity? What are your conditions for giving your virginity away? How precious is your virginity? How many others has he taken away without getting married? what quality of relationship will exist after he has freely and cheaply collected your virginity?
Look my dear I do not know which religious view you adhere to but according to the Christian world view marriage is sanctified by God but he will judge fornicators. your virginity is your most prized possession and you should as much as possible, try to keep it until you have some positive assurance that the one you give it to will treat it with a whole heap of respect. Have some standard for your life.

Answer 4

It has a lot to do with the culture you are immersed in. For instance, the
knowledge that you get of your potential partner may be offset by the
disapproval you get from your parents.

All other things being equal, I believe it is important to know who you
are marrying before you make the commitment. As much as various
religions would like to say otherwise, sex is far less of a commitment than
marriage is (and they both pale compared to a mortgage!).

However, if you are the daughter of a preacher who carries a loaded
shot gun, there may be other, more salient issues at hand.

Answer 5

You should wait until your married. That way you dont end up hurting youself and your husband and what if you got aids? I'm sure your going to hear from ppl saying would you buy a car if you didn't test drive it. Well thats the dumbest thing ever! What if you got in a crash and didn't have any money to pay for the car. Then what would you do?

Answer 6

Not everyone waits for marriage anymore. It has to be your personal choice. The most important thing is...to have deep feelings for the person you first have sex with and that they feel the same. You will always remember the first time you had sex with someone so make it special. I am glad that I waited for the right person because he made the first time very special.
Whatever you do, just be sure you are ready.

Answer 7

Personally I feel that being a virgin on your wedding day is a good thing; I didn't do it; but I think it's a special thing for a woman to give to her hubby first; I have seen where folks have regretted not being the first to their wife or husband; personally, stuff happens. but also I feel it should be a mutual thing between both parties as well; and if there is discord here, perhaps you need to rethink this. Peace.

Answer 8

well, for starters, you should be mature enough to decide the answer to this yourself before you go having sex.

some people have religious beliefs that they choose to honor by saving sex for marriage. other people don't have such a commitment to religion, so it doesn't matter. some people think marriage is a bad idea, but have healthy committed and sexually active relationships. it all depends on what you believe is best for yourself.

this question has a hint of gender bias to it. if you do decide that saving it for marriage is important, will you hold the men in your life to the same standard?

Answer 9

As long as both of you happy with what you doing and you know that the person is the trusworthy that you can live with, virginity away without marriage is nothing. The question here is how you take it and deal with it.

Answer 10

I am going to say I think that it should definatly be given to someone that you truly love and they have to truly love you back, I am not going to be a hypocrit and say wait until marriage because I didn't I gave it to the only man that I have ever truly loved and I don't regret 1 minute of it!