My husband moved out a few weeks ago, saying that even though he loves me he just can't live with me. I sobbed and sobbed, called my physician who called the pharmacist to get me on something for depression, and then I called a realtor to list the house. We've broken the news to our two children who know daddy has an apartment an hour away. Today, he stopped by to get some dress clothes for an interview and then crawled into bed next to me to cuddle, as I wouldn't allow him to do anything else. Tonight, he called the kids to make arrangements to take them to a ball game then he asked ME to go,too. After I gently reminded him that he was divorcing me, he hung up without saying "goodbye." He wants the divorce and this is the third time he's left in a year. Why is he sending such mixed messages? This whole process is painful enough without the mindgames. What do I do?
2006-08-14 14:13:37 · 15 answers · asked by ophelia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like a power trip with him. Maybe he enjoys watching you fall apart and beg for him to come back. Sometimes people seek attention in the worst ways. He probably feels like he has a lot of power over you because no matter how bad he has acted, you will take him back.
My mom had some similar issues with my father like this. After several years of it they got counseling, and my mom got strong. My father learned what he was doing. They are better now, but she still has to remember not to let him try to push her around because he could always start his power tripping again.
I think he is the depressed one, and he found that picking on you made him feel better. Stay strong, and remember who you were before you married him- channel "her" for some strength!
2006-08-14 14:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having his cake and eating it to. If I was a betting woman there is another woman. Don't let him play mind games with you. Telling him no about the ball game was a start. Change the locks on the house and for gods sake make him get everything of his out of YOUR house. This just gives him another excuse to come over. If he hasn't filed for divorce yet you need to go file. Stop wasting your life on him and MOVE ON!!!!!! When your divorce is final go find someone that really loves you.
2006-08-14 14:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the crap? He didn't even give you an explanation. Whatever dude! Don't you at least deserve something solid. This is childish. You've given him the best years of your life...for better or worse. The least he could do it freakin tell you the problem. Seriously what a jacka**! Don't play the game. Whether you get back together or not the way this is going down will bother you for the rest of your life. Don't you agree?
Find out...if he won't tell you than the truth is he's probably cheating on you or something like that.
Good luck babe!
2006-08-14 14:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is weird but in almost all the divorces Ive been around there is this final thing thts done,Like sex is one .For example you have sex with him then he has the final thing.The ending ect.So stick to your guns dont make his final end the way he wants it.He cant have the cake and eat it too! Sell the house and stay away from him.He wants the divorce but he wants the ending in his court.You can take control now and dont give it to him.Im sorry it is over but you will do better you will see! Time heals!
2006-08-14 14:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and to eat it too. He is playing games cause he wants to have a family when it is convienent for him and then forget about then when it isn't. You will never be rid of him because you are still these children's parents but that doesn't mean you have to be his booty call either. Stand firm. Tell him that he is your husband in name only until the divorce and that he wanted to leave. Tell him that just because you were/are technically his wife doesn't mean he still gets any of the wifely benefits.
2006-08-14 14:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 06:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by riesgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing games with you let him go it is going to be very hard but you will survive cause you have two childrens depending on you and don't let him use you for sex when he want to or he is mad at the other woman stay strong and take his butt to the cleaners like they say it is cheaper to keep her than divorce her good luck and get off those depressions pills they don't work deal with the problem and move on
2006-08-14 14:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made the decision to leave. He needs to get on with his life. Do Not go with him when he takes the kids out.
He wants it both ways. He wants his freedom and he wants to come to you for comfort (sex).
He is not interested in getting back together, he just wants "ex-sex".
2006-08-14 14:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi if this is the 3rd time he`s left in a year you need to tell him to go on and stop playing mind games, messing with you. you need to find someone that care and love you. not someone that is coming and going all the time. it not not love..
2006-08-14 14:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop reading into his actions. He chose not to be with you. Try to accept it and let go of him. He doesn't want you back, and you deserve someone who actually loves you and treats you right!
2006-08-14 14:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋