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I'm 46 yrs old and I would love to get back with my exwife. I know that thing in my past are not all good. I cheated on my exwife with a women at work. My exwife and I had no signs of problems at the time of my affair. I need some feed back on the idea of getting back with her. I love her very much. It has been 2 years that we are now divorce.....

2006-08-14 14:10:36 · 24 answers · asked by justmeap 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

24 answers

She will never trust you again...Once that trust is broken that's it

2006-08-14 14:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

wow,divorced 2 years,is she remarried?are there children?how long were you married???alot of questions here huh?have you had uninterrupted relationship or continued friendship with her?has there been anyone else for her or for you since your divorce?wow i am 48 and i married a man that was married 20 years to a woman and i sure hope that he doesn't feel the way you do,but often times i get the feeling that he does and that tends to harm our relationship,,,allot and due to that we have come close to divorce twice in the 5 years we have been together.it is awfully hard for a woman EVER to forget that a man had an affair,i know i don't think i would ever trust that person {really} again,maybe you just think you want to get back with her,after all if a man really loves a woman WHY have an affair??i wish you the best though if that is what you think will make you happy,but as i said i am 48 years old and divorced 9 times and trust is a major need in a relationship,good luck to ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-08-14 15:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Valerie R 1 · 0 0

properly does he desire you to bypass for help?Or is it you desirous to bypass to help him? if it really is the case, then i'd merely provide him a decision formerly he is going, tell him you're with him in spirit, and want him the suited! it is an rather good type of stuff he's dealing with and also you do not continually might want to be there, in individual, to help him. merely enable him recognize you're there for him, continually!Who cares what the exwife is doing or what she has executed.......in truth, it is over and now they prefer to unravel their subject matters! draw close in there! In time, numerous staying power and love, issues will be fantastic. existence has a fashion of doing that, it truly is everchanging.......

2016-11-25 01:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I would suggest calling her and telling her there is something important you would like to discuss with her and when would be a good time? Then lay your cards on the table. Tell her how you feel and see how she responds to it. But be very sure that you definitely want to get back together with her and that you are not just lonely, or bored, or going through a dry spell..

2006-08-14 14:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if you want her back why did you cheat is the cheating out of your system is she involved with someone else was it worth it what you did and you knew what you had what the old saying never miss the well til it run dry but i think you need counselingand find out why you were cheating and if she is not involved ask her to go to counseling with you but until then get on your knees dog an begg for forgivness good luck

2006-08-14 14:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by poda 3 · 0 0

You and your ex wife have to resolve the matters at hand. Do you know if she still loves you? Has she moved on? Is he happy? Could she ever trust you again? These are some of the questions you need to talk with each other about. I been through all of that myself and it is hard to trust again. Maybe if she is willing you both need to go to a marriage therapist. But you need to be honest with her first and she what she wants to do. It is going to be her decision on what happens.

2006-08-14 15:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by chrismsdm 1 · 0 0

if u love her very much then you know what to do, the thing is, is she still available, and if so, does she still love u? you just cant barge in your ex wife and tell her u want her back...its been two years and i dont know how many times have u talked to her...so, first things first, be a friend..then go from there :) it wont be easy for sure, but if you love her that much you'll work it out by yourself..

2006-08-14 14:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0 0

Hey can you answer a question for me- I really really want to know--why do men cheat when the marriage is"good"-- was it really good or were there problems? they say women cheat for the emotional part- men for the physical- was it just sex or was that women something to you? Please answer I always wondered. PS I don't think your ex will have just because its water under the bridge-shes probably moved on

2006-08-14 14:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You can but ask.

There is no magic to erase the past, but if she misses you, then you may
be able to after a long long long time have her re-establish trust.

You ask her out for coffee, just like it was your first date. You assume
nothing.

There is no point in groveling, as groveling is just words.

You may find it is easier to start anew.

2006-08-14 14:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Elana 7 · 0 0

Don't bother even talking to her if you don't have any signs or proof of changing. What's going to keep you from cheating again? What is going to make you suddenly have intergrity when you didn't have an ounce of it during your marriage? Let her go...you've done enough.

2006-08-14 14:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0 0

Yeah, much like my ex-husband would like to get back together with me after similar circumstances.... it ain't gonna happen. If he loved me that much, he never would have done it in the first place. You shouldn't have done this, and now you will suffer the consequences... you don't get to have the woman you desire. Suck it up, baby, YOU did this, YOU wanted this. Period.

2006-08-14 14:14:48 · answer #11 · answered by Little H 1 · 0 0

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