Is there a secret to being popular?

Question

like seriosuly, it seems like everyone is more successful than me socially. i'm starting highschool, and i have friends...i think i'm just middle-class, not popular or a loser....but i REALLY REALLY wanna be popular! and i know all that stuff about being yourself, and all, but i've tried that, and it hasn't really worked out for me...i don't even have a boyfriend yet!!!!! i know that i'm average looking...not horrible, and people tell me i have pretty eyes....but i still havent gotten one yet. i know, its really lame, but i'm starting a new school, so i guess this is my chance to start a new life, and stuff. please, no nasty comments, i already know how shallow it is....if anyone who is popular (or was, lol) or is really successful in getting boyfriends lol, could give me advice that would be great!!! please help, and no mean comments please!!! thanx so much!

Answer 1

don't worry, i totally know what you mean! maybe this'll help:

Hair: Wash your hair every day with shampoo and conditioner. Brush your hair whenever needed or at least 2 times a day. Get your hair layered from front to back. But don’t go too crazy! - There shouldn’t be more than an inch between each layer. Your hair length should go down to 3-6 inches below the shoulders for the back of your hair. Get LOTS of blond highlights! Wear your hair differently everyday. But be sure that the hair styles are cute!

Nails: Nails are very important in your appearance. It may not seem important but it is.Keep your nails looking good by clipping them once a week to about 3-6 millimeters above the skin (you can tell because it is white). Clean under your nails everyday. Paint your nails to match your outfit.

Skin: Skin is the largest and one of the most important organs of the body so you need to take care of it. Just follow these steps to healthy, glowing skin: Wash your face with warm water and facial cleaner or soap every morning when you wake up and at night before you go to sleep. After washing always use facial moisturizer. To keep the rest of your skin clean, take a shower every day using skin soap that won’t harm your skin. Lotion your body IMMEDIATELY after you get out of the shower. DON’T USE LOTION ON YOUR FACE UNLESS IT IS SAFE! Also you must drink and least 8 glasses of ACTUAL WATER a day! Drinking lots of water will make your skin glow and keep it healthy. (It also helps with acne). You may also want to carry hand moisturizer or lotion around with you for after you wash your hands or if your skin begins to look ashy. By the way, don’t put lotion on in public – find a bathroom and put it on there!

Teeth and tongue: Brush your teeth after every meal for 3 minutes, then floss, and use mouth wash to keep your breath smelling good. When you brush, make sure your getting your gums too. Brush your tongue about 1 minute every time your brush your teeth to keep it pink. If you have crooked teeth, get braces and do as your dentist recommends. If your teeth are yellow, then get your teeth bleached. Do this and you will have a perfect mouth.

Lips: You want to keep your lips smooth and looking healthy. So put loads of Chap Stick on when you’re at home, especially during the winter. Make sure it’s only around your family. In public you should have a thin coat of lip gloss on. It works wonders for your appearance!

Fitness: Health is an essential part of looking good and looking good is essential for being popular.

WARM UP (5 minutes): simple stretches for 3 minutes, light jog for 2 minutes

CARDIO (15 minutes): jog half a mile everyday or jog for 15 minutes a day,

TONING (30 minutes): do 50 sit ups a day, do 20 push ups a day (if you cant do it all in a row, try at least 6 in a row at first) do 60 arm curls a day with 5 pound weights (at least 20 in a row)(hold one weight in each hand, hold arms to sides, then lift weights up to shoulders, then back down and repeat), 50 over head presses (hold 5 pound weights above shoulders with arms bent, then lift arms straight up over head and lower arms back to first position. Do 100 squats and 100 lunges.

FLEXABILITY (10 minutes): hold splits on each leg for 2 min everyday, then straddle (middle) splits for 2 minutes (don’t force yourself to go all the way down at once, only strain, no pain, go farther down every time you feel comfortable, eventually you will be all the way down), stand up with your feet shoulder width apart and reach for your toes for 1 minute, do simple stretches for the next 3 minutes.

Eating right: If you do this, it will help your body keep or become slim and beautiful. Always and only eat healthy meals which are breakfast, lunch, dinner, and a snack in between lunch and dinner. Don’t over eat – only eat until you are comfortably full But dont skip meals, either. No sweets or soda. If you are going to have a soda, make sure that it is diet. And if you eat sweets, only eat a small portion - only once every 2 weeks. Don’t become too skinny, it will make you look ugly. And don’t be anorexic, either.

Make up: Its no secret that make up can improve your appearance. I recommend getting make up that matches your skin tone, wear lip gloss, nail polish, eye liner, and eye shadow. But don’t make it obvious that you’re wearing make up! The point is to make people think that you’re not wearing make up. Also, make sure that the makeup matches the outfit that you’re wearing. Wear all this during the day with touch ups every now and then, but make sure you take it off once you get home to let your skin breathe! Speaking of breathing, you want people breathing in good air when they’re around you. So wear deodorant everyday. You may need to put it on more than once. Wear perfume that matches the smell of your deodorant and your shampoo. Because sometimes the smells clash and it smells horrible! The smell shouldn’t be too strong, either. You can even smell different everyday! Just wear different perfumes and deodorants everyday.

Clothes: To be popular, you have to have a full, trendy wardrobe filled with the styles that are "in”. When you put the clothes on make sure that they match! Use cute jewelry that matches your outfit everyday. Such as earrings, chokers, necklaces, anklets, rings, toe rings, etc. Don’t wear too many rings! Wear make up that matches, and a hair style that works best with it.

Room: Decorate your room so that it is stylish and fun looking. Keep it clean and organized for when a guest comes.

School: Listen to the teacher, take notes, study for tests, do all your homework, complete your class work, and try your best on all your work. Work on homework and study about 1-2 hours a day. But don’t obsess over academics! You have to have a social life too! All you need is about one hour a day, and of course school hours, to be successful and get straight A’s in school and the rest is for social activities. You can be social in school as well; in fact that’s where the most social activity goes on! So talk a lot in school, but don’t be desperate.

Social: Talk a lot. Be yourself. You can be funny. Just open up! You already look good. No need to be afraid. Confidence is the key. Be confident all the time. Be outgoing. Have your own clique. Make sure they all act and look popular too. Have sleepovers every Friday, hang out after school, go to the mall, etc. Make sure you get lots of social activity a day. Act preppy, popular and girly. But be nice. Be nice to nerds and losers, but just don’t hang out with them. Chit-chat with everyone.

Remember: as you grow more popular, jealous girls may start spreading rumors about you, so be prepared. If you find out that a girl is spreading rumors about you, and you’re sure, confront that girl and tell her to stop being a little liar but don’t get physical. You always have your clique there to defend you. If its one of your clique that has betrayed you, then work it out with her, or if that doesn’t work, kick her out of the clique. Get involved! Do school activities such as student council. Do a sport like cheerleading, dance, volleyball, softball, gymnastics, ballet, basketball, etc.

Learn how to dance: Put on some music in your room and start dancing sexy! dont be shy because no ones watching you! Strut some poses and imagine you are the best dancer in the world. Then watch yourself in the mirror. See if you look good dancing. if you dont just keep practicing. expirament a little. Maybe even come up with dance routines to the hottest songs! If you do this everyday, you'll be a pro at dancing.

Learn to sing: Just practice singing with the songs in your room. Pretend you are the singer, get passionate, eventually you will get better. IF you practice using your voice to sing everyday, your voice will sound good singing. then you will be able to sing along with song with your friends, do karioke, etc. It helps to be able to sing and dance if you want to be popular.

Things to carry: a purse with make up, cell phone (Flippy), C.D. player or mp3 player with the coolest mix of songs.



Tips
Be confident!
Smile a lot!
Always have a positive attitude.
Laugh a lot with you friends.
Get a job and/or do chores.
Leave plenty of time for family.
Get at least 8 hours of sleep a day.
You dont have to have a boyfriend to be popular.
While you're walking down the hallways, smile and say hi to the people you know.
Have nice, neat handwriting.
Have and awesome sgnature!
Remember to have an e-mail address and e-mail people frequently and do instant message a lot.
Posture is important, so dont slouch!
Have a really cool walking style, but dont go overboard!
Warnings
Dont do drugs
Dont drink
Dont hang out with the wrong people
Dont have any type of eating disorder
Remember that being popular is NOT the most important thing in life.
Dont smoke.

Answer 2

Stop worrying so much about being so popular. What would you rather have? A bunch of so called friends who are conststanly in competition of each other? Or would you rather have a few good solid friends which you could be the most popular to them? It is so sad that body image and boyfriends determine someone's social status. Here's my advice: BE YOURSELF!!!! You probably have this great personality just waiting to come out yet you don't show it because you are trying to be what other's want you be. Relax, start talking to people, and do what you want to do for yourself.

Answer 3

1. You've been told to be yourself because it's the absolute truth. 2. Show interest in other people, go out of your way to talk to a lot of people that look like they would be good candidates to be your friend.
3. Don't try to be EVERYBODY'S friend, that's trying to hard - let people come to you too.
4. Do something good - whether it's sports, or grades, or drama, or band, do what you love and you'll fit in with other's that love it too.
5. Good luck and don't worry about the boyfriends yet. My daughter is super popular and refuses to date, just not interested - that makes the guys want her even more, although I would never tell her that!

Answer 4

I'm basically in the same position as you. Let's see if I can clarify anything for you...

Popularity isn't everything. The popular girls will never be as good of friend to you as that girl in choir. Popularity comes with having to worry about how the other popular think you look constantly, which in turn will leave you broke because you'll have to go out and by seven $200 pairs of jeans. There is a lot of backstabbing & gossiping that goes on in the popular circle, it's not pleasant.
Boys aren't everything. You don't need a boyfriend just like you don't need the $200 pair of jeans from above. The best guys out there are the ones that would never date a popular girl, they respect you and will love you for all you're worth. The guys that date popular girls are interested in two things: hooking up and having the hottest gf of all their friends. Wouldn't you rather be loved for your personality instead of because of how many girls you've stabbed in the back or gotten into fights with? I know I would.
The best things in life are worth waiting for. I waited for my current bf for an entire school year before he realized that I was for him. I waited for my best friend to figure out that the girls she was trying to hang out with (the popular girls) weren't worth it and to come back to me, it's been 2 and a half yrs since she dropped them forever.
You are going to be just fine like you are and you shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone be it guy or popular girl.
Good Luck, and please don't become a back-stabber you seem too nice.

Answer 5

When you start school, ask your friends what clubs they will be joining. Join them too. If they are not so ambitious, look for clubs or groups that interest you and join them. Don't overload, though. There you will meet people with common interests and goals as yourself. The boyfriends will come, believe me. I know you don't think so, but trust that it will happen. Don't try too hard, that is key. Network and you'll see how many new friendships develop. I wish I could do it all over, you're very lucky to be young.

Answer 6

I just attended my 25th reunion.

The "popular" girls all had lots of children, were on their 3rd husband
and looked really really tired.

The people who had really concentrated on getting ahead, were (surprise)
ahead. That is, they had steady loving relationships because they were
not shallow people.

You don't want to get boyfriends. You want to date people you like.
If you find someone you like, then you want to date him, not just anyone.

I'm not kidding - you're right. This could be one of those life choices for you.

Its possible to be an accessible, friendly person who goes out and does
things without being ... popular. You can be smart and have a good time
in high school without spending all of your time talking about boys,
makeup, fashion and cheerleading.

Answer 7

What is popular to you? I had a chance to be popular and I turned it down. Popular to me is everybody liking you yeah if you are popular everybody will hate you I do. and whats "going out" when you are in 6th grade I am past 6th grade and you don't go out you just hang around with a guy and make people think u are awesome when you are horrible trust it from someone who was popular!
DON'T BECOME POPULAR!

Answer 8

Don't TRY to be popular. Many times people are considered "popular" because they have something others want. "Popular" girls often make themselves available sexually to get people to like them, or they have money to provide their "friends" with extravagant forms of entertainment, or their parents own or have access to things that they allow their daughter's "friends" partake in. Cherish and enjoy the small group of friends you do have. Be friendly, smile, laugh when you hear something funny. People are drawn to people like that. Just remember, quality over quantiity. It's hard to think that way at your age, but remember it.

Answer 9

I am not Popular, but I am good with guys.
I believe that popularity is a horrible thing, it leads people do do anything to keep it or to get to it. Girls to keep popularity do drugs, and have sex, and drink( NOT ALL POPULAR PEOPLE, BUT A COUPLE TO KEEP POPULARITY DO!)
Being your self is the right thing to do. You have to have your style and your own charm. I have a distictive style, I always wear skirts and always wear long earings, and have a brazillian accent. and I also tend to flirt with a lot of guys and just basically talk alot.

Having your own style , will NOT get you into popularity, but talking to guys and flirtying with your own charm tends to get guys.

Answer 10

just be yourself. the phony ones who are rich btats are the most popular and never amount to much. remember that alot of the nerdy kids during your time wind up making fortunes marrying models and the populat ones don't get very far once mommy and daddy cut them off.

Answer 11

with the boyfriend part.....just maybe try to flatter yourself a little more. show a side of you that no one has seen, maybe wear more showing clothes, or get a new look or cut your hair. also try flirting a bit more and try and make guy friends, which later can turn into relationships