2006-08-14 13:54:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well I think that if your man enough to deal with a child then go for it. You have to put not only her into the picture but the kid as well, because the kids not going anywhere! As for the smoking as long as she not trying to get u to smoke then you have to deal with it. Don't try to make her stop because then your trying to change who she is and thats just something u should not do. If you like her and ur a big enough man to deal with a child that might end up looking at u as a father figure...whatta waiting on...call the girl and invite her and the child to dinner! good luck
2006-08-14 14:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_kaylie_on_the_way 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. If smoking bothers you that much, Im still waiting for my husband to finally kick the habit, 9 years of waiting. The "kid" thing is so touchy, it depends on how mature you are. Will you want to be a part of that family? Will you be a positive role model? Will you be able to be harmonious with the childs biological father? It could work, but there is alot of work on your side of the future relationship. So if you do decide to pursue her, than you need to make a quicker decision about were things are going rather than if you were pursuing a girl with no kids. Just so there is not another daddy walking out the door.
2006-08-14 21:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by LELA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all smoking is bad in general..and also she has a 9 month year old baby...not uh hunny if i were you i would stay away from her..i should know my bf has a baby from another girl and as it is it's really hard..i dont want anything to do with them..it's their business whatever the hell they do,but as for you...you dont want any drama with the baby's daddy.So if i were i'd find a girl who doesnt have a baby from another guy..Just trust me and take my word for advice
2006-08-14 21:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so you know you like her. Did you know about the baby and the smoking when you met her? Why is it that we like them when pursuing them, but want them to change later. If you really like her it shouldn't matter to you. The real question is should she want to be with you!!
2006-08-14 21:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to, go ahead.
but it's not like you can just add mario and stir.
things will take time, and effort. remember, it's not just herself she has to think about when getting into a relationship, it's her kid too.
(what the hell does her smoking have to do with anything unless either you don't like it, or she does it in front of the baby?)
2006-08-14 21:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by mistressmorro 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because she smokes doesnt make her a loser...maybe u can help her quit...if u love her smoking shouldnt get in the way of that..if ya live together just ask to not to smoke around you..goodluck
2006-08-14 21:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's got a kid and smokes. Sounds like a winner. Are you sure you can't do better?
2006-08-14 21:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u can just big a plastic bubble around u as so that damn kid wont bug u as for the smoking
thats kool
2006-08-14 21:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by brit_brat_love_that 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bro. do the "B & D" on girls like that, (Bang'em Then Dropp'em). Too much bagage to carry. Dont forget the trojan!!
2006-08-14 21:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her, then those things shouldn't even matter. i've been with my bf for 4yrs and he's been smoking...bothers me a bit, but i love him.
2006-08-14 22:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by mizs_sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋