I've been for around 2 years and a half with my girlfriend and she's living w me (In my house actually) and we developed together a very dependent relationship. We spend too much time and projects toghether... and I feel horrible coz I want to be alone, and spliting up would be unbearable 4 her. She threatened me with killing herself when we were about to split one year ago... Don't know what to do.... I don't enjoy sex anymore... my life's becoming miserable and feels like s* hit. Help??
2006-08-14 13:51:05 · 7 answers · asked by colodoco's 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest with her and yourself. I was trapped in a marriage once, or at least that is how I felt, ironicly we both felt the same way.... Things would have been easier if we were honest!!!
2006-08-14 13:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are feeling smothered and want a little breathing room. If this is something you can't work out with her, you have to start looking out for yourself. There is no point being in a relationship if one party is unhappy for whatever reason. It won't be fair to both of you. Threatening to kill herself is a control tactic against you but should always be taken seriously and you will need to get professional help for her if it comes down to this again. It is never healthy to be in a dependent relationship because you lose your identity in the process. If you're unhappy in this relationship, don't stay for the sake of the other person. You will only end up hurting them more in the long run.
2006-08-14 21:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's kind of an emotional blackmail..lol...but cant really blame her, she has given everything she has int he relationship and now, she seems she will lost it if it ends! sorry to say but you're relationship wont get you nowhere, it wasnt from the very start i guess...relationship is symbiotic, give and take, not being dependent of each other..its not the two of you all the time, you should have given space to be on your own...'nyways, try talking to her first, let her see what you're relationship is and what you're both going through, let her understand what you feel and listen to what she has to say...maybe u can get through her once she understands and maybe u can even ask for a cool off period and see if it works for both of u, then, maybe there's a second chance or if not, then, at least it wont be that ahrd for her :) so good luck :)
2006-08-14 21:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by just me:) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember you was in love with this person at one at or another. If she is talking about killing herself don't turn your back on her, see that she get's the help see deserve. It's hard to let go of someone your in love with especially if he treats you like a queen. Take her to see a therapist b/c this is a serious matter and i no deep in your heart, you don't won't anything to happen to her. Trust me she will thank you in the long run. Please do the right thing b/c having someone blood on your hand is horrible. She is asking you for help when she told you she wanted to kill herself, if anything happen to the relationship. Please help her and may GOD BLESS YOU BOTH
2006-08-14 21:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I know that you don't want her to kill herself, and honestly she doesn't either. You have to live life the way you need too. If she does try to kill herself that is not your problem. You are only resposible for your reactions and actions, not the actions of others. If she does try then have her sent to the hospital but honestly it would be better if you do just break it off. She needs help but it sounds like you can't give it too her.
2006-08-14 20:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by tommyslili 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need some space. If it was me I'd rather have you be upfront and honest with me than to have you cheat on me or fake your happiness ya know?
Good luck...and next time don't let the girl move in until you are lawfully wedded...
Unless it's me...then we'll be okay. :)
2006-08-14 21:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a tough one...tell her exactly what you said here and then if she is really going to kill herself tell her to get some help
2006-08-14 20:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by surfing ='s life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋