2006-08-14 13:32:04 · 11 answers · asked by SiberianHusky_8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't help aroudn the hosue anymore. He yells at the kids something he did not used to do. Also yells at me and was chatting with a women online and discussed some private things about our relationship with her kinda like cyber but thing he wanted to happen between us and things she wanted to happen between her and her husband.
2006-08-14 13:39:57 · update #1
He was not always like this he was the most wonderful husband for the first three years then three years ago he had a car accident the other womens fault but she died. I think this has messed with his head but no matter how i try to support him i seem to be no help. I just can't take being yelled at or seeing my kids hurt.
2006-08-14 13:45:41 · update #2
I'm currently separated right now, I was hoping the separation would change the way I feel about him. I was waiting for that moment when I missed him so much that I wanted him back, I'm still waiting. He says he's changed, but I'm not convinced. The only person that can change someone is themself.
2006-08-14 13:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by kbear1274 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think separating would be looking for the easy way out. When you talk about your husband, there wasn't one thing in all that that I would call a dealbreaker. Instead, he sounds like a young guy who may not have fully grown up. But with a son in the picture, you owe it to that child to try to make this work. On the finances, this is a problem in many marriages, but it can be worked through. Don't focus on the fact that you make more than him, because this, too, is common. Focus on the fact that you two aren't communicating well and haven't sat down and agreed on what makes sense as far as spending goes. If you're not seeing a dime of your money, the solution isn't to get another checking account - the solution is to have an adult convo about spending priorities and come to an agreement. Before getting your own apartment, you need to do everything you can to work this out, and that probably includes a marriage counselor, who can help you learn to resolve conflicts in healthy ways. This is what marriage is.
2016-03-27 01:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he left me with a four day old baby boy, my son is now 12 years old and we have never seen his daddy since
From the sounds of things you are better off without him. The way he was acting was just like husband number 2. He was out the door so fast his head spinned. He said he changed too, until I found out he got another girl pregnant, and was sleeping with someone else on the side. That was enough for me. get on with you life and find someone wonderful. I did I am on hubby number three and you know what they say third times the charm
2006-08-14 13:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by tommyslili 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he chatted with someone else maybe there is some reason that he didnt come to you first. maybe they were giving each other advice. but if he is not being "husband material" maybe you could go somewhere else with the kids for a week or 2 to show him how his life would be without you in it. that could work for the better, or it could make things worse. or have you tried to tell him how you feel. maybe have a romantic night out or something. show him that you want everything to work (even if you have to agree with something that you dont really agree with.)
2006-08-14 13:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, typical woman.
Trying to "change" a man into something he's not.
If you want a Ford, would you buy a Chevy and try to change it?
If you want a Ham Sandwich, do you order a Roast Beef Sandwich and try to change it once it's delivered?
Why don't you find the guy you want or at least someone who is close to it, and accept him for who he is?
If he's a loser, forget him. He ain't gonna change into a completely different person, no matter how much manipulation you hurl upon him.
2006-08-14 13:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well ....take a look on google and look up Passive Aggressive. See if your husbands auto biography is there....You cant change him, only he can change himself. If your unhappy, speak with him about this....at least then you will be being honest....If he doesnt view this as a problem, then he wont change. Tell him he is accountible for his actions....and you will be also...If you choose to leave, accept it, and do it. Better then taking the abuse.
2006-08-14 13:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it worked for me. It made him relize i was serious and if i ment any thing to him at all he would change. i even saw him cry but that was for a different reason other then not cleaning and no I didnt cheat on him and break his heart he more or less cheated on me and broke both of our hearts mainly mine. well any whoo. good luck and take care.
2006-08-14 13:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It worked for my parents... married for 16 years and separated for a year... they've been back together and better than ever...
2006-08-14 13:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea it works for like a week!
2006-08-14 13:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THE THING IS THAT YOU CANT HELP HE NEEDS SOME MENTAL HELP AND HE NEEDS YOU TO DO IT
2006-08-14 14:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋