You think he's pissed at me?

Question

I got married one year after I graduated high school. At the time I was 150 pounds and my guy was a football player at the highschool. We married.

Four years later I weigh 298 and he is still the muscular stud. WHen we go to the store everyone stares. I have even been made fun of at clubs like, "How did you get such a sexy guy you fat (unapproipiate for website)".

I feel that he only loved me at the time cause my body. I had a large chest, a skinny body, i big bootie. Now i listen to all these songs, I'm in luv wit a stripper, my humps, miss nu booty, it makes me feel bad for what i did. I feel it's my loss if we get a divorce. I have confronted him and he said he loved me for who i am, not what i look like. We still have sex and stuff.

But I still feel that he doesn't love me like he used to.

What should I do?

I catch him looks at car magazines with those sexy girlz on cars in bikinis all the time. It makes me angry at him but he always kisses me at night and says I love you.

Also, at the mall i see him look at skinny girls in horny clothes. I am worried that our relationship is falling apart because of my body.

Answer 1

You should really confront him about that your worried about your marriage. If he's looking at those car magazines and staring at women at the mall, believe me hun, that's 100% normal. I have found numbers in sexy car magazines from my husband. That turned into a divorce because i found him having sex with a nude lady in my house that was a bra size G, her bra was left on my floor..

Anyways, feel confident that your marriage will last. If you are so worried maybe you are the one that doesn't feel the love. Maybe you are in for a divorce. But things happen, and they all happen for reasons.

Also, my daughter is a bit overweight, around 275, just like you. She said as soon as she heard those songs, her sex life went from 100% to 10%. She felt like she hated herself, especially when she was how skinny nicole richie and all them were. She realized that she had to know that she had to be confortable in her skin. She found a guy that loved her for who she was, he was skin in muscles too. They have 7 children, what does that show you?

Good Luck
God Bless!

Answer 2

If you really feel that bad about it then loose weight get a personal trainer or something. If he is telling you that he still loves u then u should believe him. I understand y u might feel insecure but dont feel like its ur fault if u get a divorce!! If he leaves u cuz of that then u and him were just not meant to be and werent really in love i guess. And i kno listening to those songs may make u feel guilty but u have to just use that as motivation to loose weight!! Trust me get a personal trainer if u wanna be rockin those booty shorts agian!! LOL
I kno that u feel bad becuz u miss ur old body but you can get it bac with some proffesional help, and i kno u feel guilty for having ur husband looking sexy and u looking the way that u do but if u really love him and he loves u that shouldnt matter but to me it seems like u are trying to impress him waaaay too much.

Answer 3

Well, if he really loves you, then weight wont matter. It sounds more like you're not comfortable with yourself though, and until you accept your own body, you wont be able to acknowledge that other people do as well. If you decide to loose weight, you should do it for your health, not for the people around you. Also, you and your husband got married pretty young - so you two could just be growing up, and that will change the feel of a relationship.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are suffering from some low self esteem due to your weight. The answer is to lose weight and gain self esteem. It may have nothing to do with your husband. You may still be the angel he married in his eyes but it's who you are in your eyes that matters.
Find a good diet and exercise program you can live with. Body for Life is a good place to start. Author- Bill Phillips or any program you can stick with that doesn't frustrate you into quitting.Your weight gain is mostly related to the fat you eat and like any addiction is difficult to turn around, but you can do it.
Life is about choices. Choose to be who you want to be and go after it! Good Luck, and God Bless.

Answer 5

Awwww. He still loves you. You are blessed. I think you simply are unhappy with yourself. Not saying you need to lose the weight, but it may help your self esteem. I am not saying go on a diet and hit the gym but walking every night can do wonders over a period of time. Take a few blocks to begin and move on from there. Make you feel good about yourself.

Answer 6

I too have put on alot of weight since I married my husband and I too listen to those songs and wonder why my husband is still with me. Even though he reassures me that he does, Yet I catch him looking at those skinny women. The only thing I can suggest is what I am trying and that is to loose weight and improve my appearance, (new hair style, color, etc..) and show my husband that I love him. good luck

Answer 7

tell your husband how you feel and ask him to help you shed some pounds, having someone that loves you back you up and not having to face a diet alone will give you the power to succeed and is also something healthy the 2 of you can do together and make you both feel good about yourselves. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Has your husband said/shown that he doesn't love you like he used to??? Have you had any children??? You haven't said, that can always play a part in your gaining weight. Don't be down on yourself, why don't you have your husband go out with you in the evening for a walk, it will help both of you. Good Luck to you!!!!

Answer 9

You sound very insecure. Maybe you should trying shedding some pounds. That should make u feel better.

Answer 10

You can try to lose weight...it will benefit the both of you and it will make you feel better about yourself.