i have been married for almost 3 yrs and my sex drive has gone way down. I love him very much and i want him to have sex just not with me most of the time.is it okay to let him be with other women?
2006-08-14 13:18:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please dont let him sleep weith other women, it will destroy your marriage, why is it you would rather let another woman satisfy him, rather than find out why you dont want sex?!of all the dutys as a wife, sex is the most important one to keep as a single employee kinda deal....once you get co-workers, it gets messy, emotionaly, and these days, letting him sleep with other women can kill you, or make you sick, if he got an std, you, very likely would too...
2006-08-14 14:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not unless you are willing to put up with the fact that he might fall in love with someone else. I also have been married for three years and our sex life has gone down. what you are experencing might be a sign of depression. He should never stray from your marriage. It complicates things Way too much. If you are not in the mood at the moment then he will have to deal with it. But I would suggest you get check out for depression. If that is the case the once it is fixed it will go up I promise.
2006-08-14 20:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by tommyslili 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to the root of why your sex drive has gone down before you do something you will regret. It could be any number of things - stress, exhaustion, hormones out of whack... Maybe there is a chemical imbalance that medication could take care of. Men take Viagra or similar prescriptions. Talk to your doctor. He's the one that can help you the most.
2006-08-14 20:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...no. Don't let him be with other women. Get to the root cause of why you don't want sex anymore. Have you gained weight? Are you stressed? Try eating a healthier diet, and getting some exercise. It will get rid of any excess weight and boost your seratonin levels. It is a natural stress reliever. If all else fails, go to marriage counseling. There may be underlying issues you're not dealing with.
2006-08-14 20:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to take the chance of losing him, then go ahead. Giving him permission to have sex with someone else can cause all sorts of problems like risk of std's, losing him, and more.....
Go to a doctor and discuss whats going on with you. They may be able to find out why you feel this way...I'd rather spend the money finding out if there is something wrong with me, then spending it on a divorce lawyer.
It may be something psyhcological, see a counselor. There are alot of things that happen to woman both physically and mentally as they grow older,
but true love comes only once in awhile...Don't risk losing it.
2006-08-14 21:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love him, you would not be considering letting him be in bed having sex with other women.
You should the only one that you picture in your mind with him in bed having sex. If you are considering tellin ghim that he can have sex with other girls, than divorce in the picture.
If you are really listening to me and feel bad, than go to the store and get some horny pills, they will get you pumped up and ready for sex. Just don't take more that what it says, believe me!
THey are usually found at gas stations at the check out, but i usualy go to albertsons or target just to make sure that they rn't going 2 kill me or something.
2006-08-14 21:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you insane??? When you are married you try to work through stuff like that. Are you on the shot? That lowers your sex drive. See someone for it before you tell him to have sex with someone else, you will regret it in the long run.
2006-08-14 20:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Laura S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.... it's not okay for him to be with other women, you took
vows to love one another ....have been to the doctor about your sex drive...think back to when your sex drive went down...
because you don't want him going to other women for sex..who knows what he might come back with...and when you let him test other waters he just might not come back to you...cause he found someone else... think about
2006-08-14 20:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no initially. I guess it depends on how well you can protect yourself against STD's. Why has your sex drive gone way down? There is treatment out there for you. Not viagra, but something similar. I don't have this problem, but i feel for you.
2006-08-14 20:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you plan on staying married, and not divorced like 50% of the population, I would say NO to letting him sleep around.
Now... why isn't your sex drive what it was? hormones? is he not good in the sac? kids?
2006-08-14 20:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by leahlovesspam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋