that a gay/lesbian/bisexual or transgendered relationship is based on sex, and sex alone? I have often wondered why many people in the straight community think this. Are their relationships (romantic ones) purely based on sex? Why do they seem to think that we are just driven by lust...and not love? Don't get me wrong....a healthy dose of lust never hurt a relationship :) but there is so much more!
2006-08-14 13:13:34 · 17 answers · asked by Autumn BrighTree 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have been taken thoroughly to task by TX guy. And he is right, to a certain extent. I am not trying to predefine what straight relationships are like. I am not saying that the entire straight community has these preconceived notions about glbt relationships. I am just questioning the ones that DO think homosexuality is purely about sex.
2006-08-14 14:14:21 · update #1
My, my! The angry little timmy has been here! Awww, such language!
I'll save you a seat, timmy.
2006-08-15 08:59:03 · update #2
Dear Lesbian-Type Person:
Straight people, as you say, enjoy a full range of emotions in a deep and true relationship. For that part, you're right. However, if you think that sex is not a major factor in the relationship, then you don't have a clue.
I think its fair to say that deep relationship would never commence without a deep sexual attraction. Personality, things you like to do together and a myriad of other things eventually develop, but sex initially is the major draw of straight couples. A relationship would never truly start without a strong sexual attraction. You may call it lust, most call it love. Sex is an important part of love, its called lovemaking.
I'm not knowledgeable enough to define why non-straight people bond together. Truly, I don't care to engage in social reasons or get into the moral implications of gay relationships. I know gay people and I find them bright and often very nice. I'm not a homo-phobia type of person.
But the reason I respond to your question is that I take offense to you attempting to define why straight people bond. For you to say that sex is not important in a relationship or to say you don't think its the most important tells me that as many people wrongly attempt to define you and your lifestyle, you are so presumptuous as to attempt to define my lifestyle. You have it wrong.
As I read responses you already have recieved I see people who are bias in favor of your lifestyle and they don't even respect you enough to answer your question. I know there a lot of bigots out there that want to treat you people wrong, but I think there are just as many gay people who are "gun shy" and are so defensive that they automatically put up a defense when there is no attack coming their way. If you don't believe me, look at some of the responses here.
Have a nice day,
TX Guy
2006-08-14 14:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romans1:18-32
2006-08-14 20:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by belovedlady1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that since homosexuals have spend quite some time pondering their inner world, emotions and relationship to surrounding society, they are quite aware of who they are and what they want.
I feel that because of these reason on average homosexual are actually more capable of experience love in a mature way than pure heteros.
2006-08-15 04:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by BonAqua Identity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is so much more to a "gay" realtionship than just sex. We do love and many of us have deep commited realtionships with our partners. There's no more lust going on with us, the gays, than there is with them, the straights...I don't see "Bob's Classy Lady" going out of business any time soon.
2006-08-14 20:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by The Tiki God 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a stereotype. Stereotypes are believed by stupid, narrow minded people. Many relationships, regardless of the genders involved, are based on emotion, and many are based on sex. It's a prejudice.
2006-08-14 20:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That only shows how many people are still ignorant of the ways of living of the GLTB individual. And it's not easy to educate people who has already condemned such relationships/lifestyle.
2006-08-14 20:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had to explain to my dad when he said, "I just don't understand your relationships." I told him there was no difference between any relationship I may have with a man and any relationship he may have with a woman. The only difference is the gender of the other person.
2006-08-14 20:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To love is to love...I don't believe it is a sex thing at all. And i am saying a gender thing. A soul that loves another soul is powerful. It shouldn't matter if it is two woman or two men or to transsexuals, ya know. Just love who you love and keep up the healthy lust.
2006-08-14 20:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by kari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm all about the emotions, sugar.
Emotion is practically my middle name. If the bond isn't there- I don't go for it. One way that gays and straights are NOT SO DIFFERENT.
My future BF will be kind, caring, and demonstrative...very demonstrative, and as emotionally invested in me as I am in him. I(I'm still looking, for all you nice fellas out there... Nerds OK, cause I'm one). LOL.
2006-08-14 20:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Fancy Pants 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never thought it was just about sex.....if anything I thought that they where more based on love then straight relationships usually.....
2006-08-14 20:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋