Why do I feel like this???

Question

I know I asked this question like a billion times, but I want more answers.
Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. Why does it do this??? It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now, what should I do???
If you are going to tell me that I need to talk to someone older like a friend, I have an 18 year old friend thats a girl and she is like a big sister to me but I don't want to bug her with my problems. But should I still try to talk to her???

I tried to talk to my 18 year old friend, but it seemed like every time I tried to talk it just hurt so bad that I couldn't talk about it anymore, is that normal???

Answer 1

Yes it is very normal to feel this way, Based apon your child hood memorie you feel that you can never be happy in your life time you may feel that your Mothers passing may or may not be your fault but don't feel so down and depressed realize that life goes on maybe it was your Mothers time. I do not know if you are religious in anyway but she is in a better place nothing can ever be your fault . Make the most of it and know she is always there for you, No matter where she is. Always looking forward to see many things in your life. And yes it is very good to be open minded to someone close to you about the way you feel deep down inside and it is okay to cry. Crying eases your pain more then anything. Talking really helps alot tho it makes things better for you and not only that but it makes you feel better eachday you talk about how you feel your life will be full of happiness.

Answer 2

I think you should see a psych.I think you should try to talk to your friend, but at the same time if you feel that you may be bugging her-try to seek help from elsewhere.But that is what psychologists are for-they listen to you,help you bring out your inner feelings, and give you the help and advice needed to overcome your problem.Your feelings for your mom is probably becoming stronger because of the fact that you are getting older.You have had more experiences and events that you probably wish your mom was there for-you are probably realizing just how important your mother is-and wishing your's were still hear.And you are probably starting to become more like her the older you get.Good Luck!!!!!Get help-you don't want this problem to build up and go on for the rest of your life!!!!Although, the way you feel is natural.

Answer 3

No matter who u talk to it is going to hurt. I think u should talk to ur family or friends that are close to u because they are who care about you the most. I know that it might hurt but as long as you keep the hurt inside it will only get stronger. Talk about ur feeling and how much u must miss her. Allow ur mother to live on as a part of you. Right now it sounds as you are stuck in a rut and not allowing ur self to move on. I am by no means saying to forget your mother, but don't allow urself to waste away due to the fact that ur mother is in a better place. Let her live on though you. Get out and do things that u and ur mother might have did. And talk about her with people let them know that ur love for her is everlasting and soon the hurt will turn from being unbearable to being a part of rememberance. Ur mother undoubtly was a great loving lady but resect the way you know that should would want you to act. Live life not in constant hurt for her, but with her living on through you.

Answer 4

OK.. believe me when I say don't go see a psych or shrink regardless of what other people say. You are the only one that knows yourself and really what you need.Shrinks just have a piece of paper that says that they think they know what they are talking about. My mother gave me up for adoption when I was 7 and didn't see her again til I was 18 and she was on her death bed from lung cancer. I feel your pain..honestly cause I miss her dearly even though I hardly knew her.You need to surround yourself with caring and positive people.( Even though it is hard to find that quality in this day and age). It is gonna take some time but if you need someone to talk to please don't hesitate to write me.

Answer 5

You were young so you didn't really get the chance to express your hurt fully. But now that you're older you feel the full blast and add on that you're a TEENAGER you really are going to have one hell of a time! But its important to talk it out........pastor, father, teacher someone......you can't let that hurt stay like that or else you'll never be able to move on and I'm pretty sure your mother wouldn't want that.

Answer 6

if u feel better when u talk to us , well ok u can u welcome , try to stop think about it , i know its hard but turn the music on and try to find a good boyfriend that makes u feel better and u can have someone who loves u and respect you all the time dont put your self like the world is over but u want to know that your not alone who is without mom so that is destiny , god wants your mom , but you u can always know that your mom isn't dead forever but your mom just passed away from this world , she can hear u and helps u . i hope u enjoy that u want all of your futrue and keep it up and be active . when u ever u want to talk to us . you welcome!

Answer 7

I think it is time to talk to your caregiver about speaking with a therapist. You are still having problems going through the grieving process, and you experienced a significant loss at a crucial point in your life. I wish you the best.

Answer 8

Pray. Talk. Meditate. All of this is natural. The pain of losing your mother will ease with time but will never go away. Write letters to her and pray to God for strength. It may be nice to go to therapy that deals with post traumatic stress disorders.

Answer 9

first,try and think of what happen to you when you were 8?was your mom and you close?did your mom and you do things together?
where are you now,with family,are you close to your father. you will need to talk to someone,i feel your hurt.my daughter lost her mom when she was just turning 12,that was hard for her and we had to be really strong to get though all this. i wish you much happiness,you will get there,don`t give up.

Answer 10

i'm soo sorry. my mom died 12 years ago and i'm still not over it. i was 5. i talked about and it brought tears... alot of tears. but talking about it and letting people know what youre feeling is sooo much better than letting it build up. you'll go crazy. it'll be hard to talk about it but believe me... it's worth it. just talk to someone you love and trust. someone that wont just throw your feelings aside.. if you can trust that girl, talk to her. you'll feel better. i promise.