My best friend is a black female and we go to the same high school- we're both about to be Juniors. My sophomore year she told me she couldn't hang out with me because we go to a mostly black high school, and she doesn't want people seeing me with her because Im white. I am very hurt and told her I was, and she told me "Well you have to understand that as a black woman, I see the world differently from you." I dont get it. We both have similar interests, and Im very friendly to everyone. Other black students dont have a problem with me. Do you think she's just saying she cant hang out with me because of my skin to cover up the fact that she might think Im a loser or something? Im really hurt and cant believe my friend Ive known since grade school could say such a prejudice thing to me.
2006-08-14 13:02:45 · 6 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Welcome to reverse discrimination. Now you know what it feels like when the shoe is on the other foot. Just as there are prejudice people in the white community (and ones who are not) it's the same in this case. There are those who care about what others think and those who couldn't care less.
2006-08-14 13:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has nothing to do with you. The pressure is coming from her own "community". They all may like you individually, but once they get in a group, they dog each other about having a white friend. Don't try to figure it out. Where I grew up, all the kids of all races from grades 1-5 got along fine. When the black kids went to the middle school(grades 6-8), the older black kids got a hold of them and did the same things to them that your friend's friends are doing. The eventually isolated themselves for the most part from then on in our schooling. It's confusing at that age to understand
2006-08-14 20:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your friend might be influenced by a number of events...which may have affected her between the first time she knew you until today. People change with time, and the things they experience in life, (whether it be it race-related or not) may re-direct their true inner feelings toward someone else. It may or may not be pressure from her friends, or it may or may not be that she thinks you’re not cool anymore because of your background. She might be a little jealous of you because you personally know too many of her friends. Ask her… why are you trying to break my chops after having known you for so long? See what she says.
2006-08-18 10:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Carrib G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she isn't racist at all, just simply don't want to be your friend anymore. One of my best friends in middle school (7th grade, the middle school was like 95 percent Black students) was white, I stop hanging around her not because of that, because she was a snitch and extremely annoying. She presumed it was because of race differences, but it plainly wasn't.
2006-08-14 21:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you told us in your question. There is a lot of peer pressure STILL about a black person hanging out in high school with a white friend. Maybe you can assure her that you will weather the storm with her...........if she is afraid of being teased. Hang in there ......friendships are precious!!
2006-08-14 20:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she likes you but not as a hangout person,maybe she feels you wont fit in her group maybe her friends dont like you and she is trying to spare hurting your feelings even worse........i would just let her go and i dont think that was a prejudice thing to say shes just being honest but she didnt say she dont wanna be your friend she just dont feel compfortable on the outside.......dont stress it ! everyone that answered this ???? sounds ignorant
2006-08-14 20:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋