I am recently separated from my husband. i have always been attracted to this guy at work. but never approached him until the separation. i did most of the flirting. but it went a couple of steps further. he dates this one girl. but my feelings have grown deeper for him. he likes me but not nearly as much as i adore him. we don't talk that often. but it's like i feel a connection with him. should i wait to see what happens, or let it go? oh! did i mention the reason my husband & i separated wasn't because of this situation. and my husband wants me back. i love him but i'm in love w/the other guy. HELP me out family! what should a poor girl do?
2006-08-14 13:02:02 · 8 answers · asked by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
right now I think you need a clear perspective. So for a while try not to think about any men. Keep busy in your work and hobbies. See what happens and how you feel in a couple weeks.
2006-08-14 13:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said both of you don't talk often...so you don't know him very well so maybe you are idealizing him. This other guy is not very interested in you as you think because if a man likes you or want you, there is nothing that can make him be appart from you. The man looks time, place and ocassion for being with the woman he likes. THis new guy doesn't do that and he got a girlfriend, clearly he is not very interested in you. Let him go.
About your husband, you don't love him as a man, it is simply don't go back with him, it is a waste of time when feelings are gone.
2006-08-14 20:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not digging you. You are making up an illusion.
You are married. Stick it out. Seperated does not mean it's ok to have sex with others because ya'll are in time out.
Children, grow up! Marriage is a battlefield that is going to make you mature or youll lose the battle and stay as an infant.
Self control is key. Be consistent with your choices then you will see your success.
2006-08-14 20:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you said it yourself, he's just not as into you as you are him. Sounds like it's an infatuation. I don't think your really in love with him but the idea of him. If he was obviously into you, I'd say go for it. But he's not. I'd try to work it out with your husband, try to find that love for him again.
2006-08-14 20:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your husband, a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush
2006-08-14 20:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to tell that guy how u feel that way u can see if he feels the same way too and if he doesnt that way u can just go on with your life
2006-08-14 21:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be in love with someone you haven't had an open conversation with?
2006-08-14 20:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mix work and play.
Big mistake.
2006-08-14 20:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋