The grandmother admitted in the one family session they would come to that his reason for hitting me was because I was pregant and wasn't married. My husband is deceased. They dont accept the violent behavior of thier grandson.My son is now home from the hospital
2006-08-14 12:59:53 · 18 answers · asked by confused/hurt/angry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The son who is bipolar is home after spending 6months in a hospital to get help. I feel guilty for keeping him from his grandparents becasue they are old even though They are a bad influence. The child I was pregant with is fine
2006-08-14 13:06:39 · update #1
The son who is bipolar is home after spending 6months in a hospital to get help. I feel guilty for keeping him from his grandparents becasue they are old even though They are a bad influence. The child I was pregant with is fine
2006-08-14 13:06:42 · update #2
Thnaks so much for those of u who answered with understanding. Maybe the question wasn't real clear to some of u but...... I feel like after spending 6 months in the hospitalhe understands how wrong his actions were but it is hard when the grandparents are telling him he had a reason (pregant and not married to the guy) for hitting me, but hopefully through his counseling he can come to terms with the way his grandparents are. Once again thank u to those who understand.
2006-08-15 03:31:18 · update #3
My situation is somewhat similar to yours. My exhusband used to hit me when i was pregnant. He used things like a skateboard, HIS CAR, he even stabbed me with a fork. His mother, who is even crazier than he is, said it was perfectly fine for him to hit me. She thought that it was not only a man's right to hit his wife, but his duty. Had I not gotten away from him, I would not have my miracle baby to brag about. I have had a permanent restraining order on him since i left him ( I still don't know how i managed w/o him killing me). So I now have my beautiful daughter, and scars that will never heal. They remind me of what i might have lost, had I not stood up for myself, and taken a stand. NO ONE should hit you, pregnant or not, son or not. you are better than that, and his life holds nothing but one rude awakening after another if his behavior doesn't change.
2006-08-14 13:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by Hailey Jo 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Huh? Why would you even consider what the grandparents say about how you raise your child? Fix the problems for your, and your childrens' good.
I just read your last post that your son is bipolar. Love him as best as you can, but your safety, as well as everybody else close to him, is paramount. Do not hesitate to call the police if things get out of hand.
2006-08-14 20:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Pancakes 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the grandparents really didn't want to see the behavior of your son. Maybe they were thinking if they don't really acknowledge it, then it didn't exist. Grandparents tend to be from a much older generation; so maybe his violence was justified in their eyes because of their old-fashioned views. I'm sorry that happened to you :-(
Make sure that you are safe from your son. Even though you are the parent, that doesn't give him the right to hit you. I hope that he is in counseling to help him deal with his anger.
2006-08-14 20:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no you are not wrong for admitting your child for the sake of mental health if help was needed and offered being bipolar he probably doesn't understand what was wrong about it and being young doesn't help either if they aren't going to except your child because of a unpredictable condition in which one can lash out at others then don't let them associate with his grandparents until a mutual decision is met where they can except him for him
2006-08-14 20:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by alew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant or not you are the parent discipline that child now or when he is older and stronger you may find yourself fighting for your life. He may also be feeling anxiety about potentially being replaced or ignored by the arrival of the new baby.
2006-08-14 20:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by sugabesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not understand but you make your statement and be clear about it. You tell them its wrong for your son to be phyiscally abusive towards his own mother. You are(or were pregnant),and even if you were married or not who does your kid think he is? you take control of the situations,you use firm discipline. Family session or not you have to take control of your family aka your children,if they don't like it,tough tit.
2006-08-14 20:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am not sure of your question exactly but if your son was old enough to understand what he was doing when he hit you in the back, it's pretty serious.
2006-08-14 20:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no exuse for it. Sounds like they are going to condone and make exuses for everything he does. Probally because his dad is gone and they feel they have to protect him, however it is not going to help him in the long run. He needs to punished for his actions.
2006-08-14 20:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? Thats not only terrible but scary. And i have news for you, if he's younger lets say under the age of 8yrs. then someone is telling him to do that because they know that it could harm your baby, plead the blood of jesus over it, give it to god.
2006-08-14 20:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by champagne 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
children should never raise their hand to their parent....you need to set him straight NOW. my one daughter is bipolar. one time , when she was 4, she tried to strike me.....i taught her a lesson right then and there....she has never tried that again...she is 15 now. my mom always tried to interfere with the way i raised my children...i wouldn't allow it. stand firm, and do not let your child(ren) get away with that behavior.
AMEN TO HAILEY JO...she is absolutely correct!
2006-08-14 20:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋