My boyfriends daughter who is 27 yrs old wants to have an abortion, he is totally against it. He talked to her about helping her out and he would always be there for her but she just won't give in. He is just sick with worry. What can he do?
2006-08-14 12:49:26 · 14 answers · asked by Izzy 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
All he can really do is love her and tell her that no matter what she decides to do he will be there for her. As a mother I would hate to know that my grandchild was being aborted, but I would know that my daughter would still need me. Maybe he could ask if he could take her to the clinic so that he could care for her...that would be very, very hard, but maybe it would really get her to thinking. He could bring up the idea of adoption as well. What a sad situation to deal with. My prayers are with you guys and the baby.
2006-08-14 13:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she sincerely does not want to raise the child. Tell him to pray, and to discuss adoption with her. It is not always good for a woman to raise a child, particularly if she does not want to have any. Adoption is obviously a better option. Be sure if she does get one, that he remains supportive. She may need him even more then, whether she thinks it will be a problem or not. Many women are taken by surprise by their profound grief and regret after having one. If she is married, dad should stay out of it completely. It is a decision to be made between her and her partner. She is an adult, after all.
2006-08-14 20:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because she is 27 there really isnt much he can do she should have thought about what she was doing before hand now she is being selfish and only thinking of herself and her own freedom, i know this must be heartbreaking for him but she is gonna have to feel it in her heart in order to make the decision to keep the baby maybe he should try to get her to speak with someone from planned parenthood or a nurse at a clinic because there are health risk if you abort a child she should know this
2006-08-14 19:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAybe ya'll need to find out Why she wants to have that done. If she just plainly does not want a baby, then maybe you and your hubby can talk her into having the baby and you two adopting the baby. Then the baby will be born and will have his/her family and the baby will still always have his/hr birth mother as well! She would eventually come around if ya'll can convence her. I hope this helps let us know! Good luck!
2006-08-18 10:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the best thing he can do now, since her mind is already made up, is to just try and be as supportive as possible of her decision. He can't stop her from going through with it and if he doesn't want to jeopardize his relationship with his daughter he has to just suck it up and accept that she's going to do it whether or not he gives his approval or not. I'm sure that she's didn't tell him seeking approval of her decision but merely informing him about what she was planning on doing.
2006-08-15 17:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing it is her choice, it is just as much a sin to have an abortion, and a sin to have a child you dont want and cant and will not take care of or lead the right way. People cannot be forced into having children.
2006-08-14 19:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about adoption? That way the dad gets his way and the daughter gets her way by not having the responsibility. Sit down and have a talk with her.
2006-08-14 19:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by WDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about her dad adopting the baby. Maybe where you guys are from the two of you could adopt her baby and raise the baby. Also let her know that it would mean she wouldnt have to do anything and she could visit the child if she wanted to.
2006-08-14 20:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just calm down. His daughter should not do abortion, it's unsafe and it's wrong. Just tell him that everything will be fine. Maybe you should talk to his daugther, tell her that if you were her mother than you would not allow it and that you would totally not do it if you were her.
2006-08-14 20:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is of age but keep talking to her and tell her how much you love her and the baby to be.Tell her if the baby goes for abortion then you will be done with her . Scare her a little . If she loves you enough then she will not want you to leave her and she will keep the baby.
2006-08-14 19:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋