She stayed last year, and was short on cash and did not pay anything.... her son is sick (virus, and contatious, infecting my house) and still came down. I am not there, but she is using the washer/dryer and air. I do not want tosay anything, but she should leave some money. She invited her family as well... 5 people
2006-08-14 12:45:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why are you relating this situation to total strangers, here at Yahoo? who can do NOTHING to help you in this situation?
If you can't figure out what to do (tell this mooching 'friend' to vacate your premises), then you deserve to have the situation remain exactly the way it is --- and have it continue to hurt your wallet, until you choose to do something constructive!!! No pain, no gain, apparently, for you - - - -
2006-08-14 12:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST get some backbone and tell her...NOW...
Tell her that you realize that she was short on cash last year, but that because of increased costs of taxes, utility bills etc., you would appreciate her contributing something--say--like ($--------) however much you would think would be fair.. See what being a nice guy got you so far?? A mooch. The nerve that she invited 5 other people as well. You have GOT to stand up for yourself, or you'll be played like a fiddle from now on from her and now maybe even her family.
2006-08-14 20:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "friend". What kind of pact have you entered into with her? This didn't happen overnight. Nobody just waltzes in...friend OR family..and says "Hey...about that beach cottage?" and moves in. With an ensemble to boot.
You just allow this to take place? Or how close of a "friend" is your "friend"?
Get my drift? Oh...and if she's not really "known" to you in the Bibilcal sense...you're a chump. That answers it. If you've put your self in a uncomfortable position here for the first reason, let's know what the basis is for this and start from there. Which apparently started last year as you have pointed out. What's the story there?
2006-08-14 19:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man what a free-loader. Tell her she has to cover the hydro bills or whatever, plain and simple. You cannot afford to do so...as if she'll buy that however.
And in the event you don't this year, next year tell her she'll have to rent it from you at $200 a week or whatever paid upfront.
The very least she could do since you didn't even ask her for money is leave your fridge stocked before she leaves, or leave you a few bottles of wine or a case of beer, etc...something at least to show some appreciation.
2006-08-14 19:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels she can invite people to stay with her in your house you should have no worries about asking her for money. The fact that she is inviting people over is showing she is not humble about your gesture. Besides, I assume she is an adult and should be familiar with the cost of living. Let her know you want to help her, but she needs to do her part as well or you cannot afford her.
2006-08-14 19:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you actually tell her it wasn't a freebie? If you have never said anything about money, it's not up to her to offer it. You need to set the ground rules before allowing her to stay there. If that's what you did, then she should pay or get out. Period. If she's taking advantage of you, she's not a very good friend anyway...so no great loss if it ends the friendship.
2006-08-14 19:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her straight up that its okay to stay ... if that is how you feel but YES get your money I know it ain't cheap to run a house especially with 5 people, tell her you need some kind of payment for her staying there or she will have to go...
2006-08-14 19:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to pay the bill. If you are friends you should be able to say that to her. If not then just wait until the power goes out and then she will probably go pay the bill.
2006-08-14 19:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Parker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say money make friends and money break friends. You need to hit the nail on the head and let her know, that she needs to give you money towards the expenses. If she is a true friend she will understand. If not, then YOU need to know why YOU are her friend. BRACE YOURSELF.
2006-08-14 21:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by spice girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. . . you stay, you pay. It's possible to get some one to take care of the kid while she works. Then she can pay you and you can find some polite way to help her find a place of her own.
2006-08-14 19:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rockerbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋