1st she tried to steal my boyfriend by goin to events that she knew i wasnt goin to at but he was..and she would suck up to him and try and have him break up wit me.but after a while he got sick of her and told her to get lost...2 months later i forgave her..
then she started to talk to my brother and i found out and told her not to cuz he is a player..but she didnt listen and told him not to tell me about them..
and she juss called me sayin that she is goin to have his baby..and that he dont want to be wit her ani more and her parens said that she cant live wit them any more..so she needs some where to stay but i told her she cant stay wit me...was that mean?
should i help her out
2006-08-14 12:30:48 · 25 answers · asked by latina beana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Doesn't sound like much of a friend. She tried to steal your boyfriend = she isn't a friend at all.
The thing with your brosther is between them. You tried to give her advice, but she didn't take it, which is her decision and has nothing to do with you. However, your brother needs to live up to his responsibilities, and he has legal obligations as the father.
As for her living with you, I would say NO. Why do you want to get involved in that? How old is she?
2006-08-14 12:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by merigold00 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who has been through it! People you call "friends" are not friends when they try to pursue any man you are interested in! A friend is someone you completely trust, and share everything with. I am 32 and I for the first time found a true friend. I understand that this person is in trouble, but you did what a friend would of - you warned her and she didn't care. That was her own personal choice, and you shouldn't have to take on additional problems. There are several shelters that can help her out in a time of need. Keep looking a true friend is out there for you too.
2006-08-14 12:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really to be honest I think in away you are justified because you did warn her but honestly I feel if you were a TRUE friend you'd forgive her once more and HELP her but not SPOON FEED her. She has to learn to deal with the consequences of her decisions. Cause if there is always someone there to catch her and fix what ever she messes up on then she won't be able to fend for herself nor her unborn child.
2006-08-14 12:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by gossip_gurl_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't help her out. That's not about you. That's between her and your brother that you told her not to mess with. I guess she learned. As for other stuff, it's ok to forgive her, just watch yourself with her from now on. She shouldn't be in your life the way that she was before. She needs to earn your trust again.
2006-08-14 12:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shirley B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! .
you did warn her and she didnt listen. even though she should have listened people do make mistakes, and everyone deserves to be forgiven. in a way what u said was and then wasnt mean because she should have listened. thats just tough love. i do think that u should help he because she is your friend and she is carrying your brother's baby. but all i can say is follow your heart
2006-08-14 12:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by bronx baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right to say no. This girl sounds like nothing but trouble. If she's been ignoring your advice, then there's nothing you can do. You can still support her--emotionally. If she's going to be having a baby, she needs to learn to support herself, because soon she's going to be in charge of another life as well.
2006-08-14 12:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't sound like a real friend. Friends don't steal your boyfriend. Friends respect you and don't want to hurt you. Honestly, I think you're better off without her. There are people who deserve your friendship more than her. If you keep forgiving her she'll get used to it and she will abuse it.
2006-08-14 12:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Adrienne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is a liar and a sneak. But you claim she is your friend. If that is so you have a duty to help her if she is in trouble. That she didn't take your advice about your brother is irrelevant. She is pregnant and soon to be homeless. Help her.
2006-08-14 12:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help her out because if that was you, you would want someone to help you out. But after that, just tell her what she did was wrong and maybe you can talk it out or just say you dont wana put up with this.
2006-08-14 12:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by ~Unpredictable~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means you should drop her like a bad habit she doesn't sound like much of a friend much less someone you would want to be a part of your life!! Best of luck!
2006-08-14 12:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋