I want her to have it not get and abotion. i tryed so hard to tell her to have it but she says she dont want her body going throuht that. I even told her to have it and ill take care of it she would not have nothin to do with the baby, but she still said no what do i do?
2006-08-14 12:28:49 · 28 answers · asked by friscotx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let her know that her body is much more likely to be permanently damaged by abortion than by childbirth. Childbirth is a natural process. Abortion is unnatural. Her cervix (tightly closed to protect the baby) will have to be forced open, so that sharp instruments can be inserted. This may result in tearing and permanent damage to her cervix. Abortion is a "blind procedure." The abortionist cannot see what he is doing and may puncture her uterus, bowel, or bladder.
Here is information on abortion risks and deaths:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Also, share this information with her:
Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Stay calm. Stay loving. You don't want her to abort the child out of anger. She is probably scared right now. Let her know that you will think that she is beautiful pregnant! Tell her that the baby is going to be beautiful, just like her. Take her shopping for some cute baby things (if and when she seems to be in the mood). Let her know that you are sure she can handle the pregnancy. Tell her that you don't want her OR the baby hurt. Bring her flowers. Keep on trying and don't give up.
2006-08-15 02:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had that problem. I got pregnant and wanted an abortion i even broke up with my b/f because he wanted the baby. I was being selfish. I didn't want the scares and baby fat and all the other stuff i thought i would get after the baby was born. Even the pain of having the baby. Just tell her to think, "Is her life and all those changes to her body more important than an innocent child being born that WILL be her pride and joy?" Of course not your body will be fine. you will lose that weight , there are creams so she doesn't get stretch marks, and down below will go back to normal after the baby comes out. I had my daughter and she is the best thing that ever happened to me and I'm even married to the father. I love them both so much! If she really thinks about it this child being born is the most important thing in her life , not well if i get the abortion i can still look hot and date anyone and blah blah blah ..What about this baby? And if u love her you should be there for her. She needs to think about it and stop saying no ... This is a living child! This child in her belly wont be born again, it will die and never come back to be reborn in another girl. It's one of a kind and will change her world for the best not the worst. The changes the baby makes to your body are temporary.
2006-08-14 19:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I totally against abortion, it's her choice. Well, it should be you and her making this decision together but the final straw always comes down to her. If she wants one, she can get one, if she doesn't she doesn't have to.
It's totally unfair to both you and the unborn baby, but the law protects her rights and one of them is to have an abortion. If her mind is set on doing it, there's no stopping her, she'll find a way.
There's no magic sentence you can say to change her mind, if she only could understand how precious a little one is maybe she wouldn't do it. Send her my way and let me try and talk to her. I'm really young (17) and have 10 month old. I've had a friend who had an abortion, now she regrets it. I really hope she does not choose to have one, she'll carry that with her, her whole life.
2006-08-14 19:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by reynacatherinelopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i am shocked at the previous answers, especially considering some of them came from guys.
You are a truely good person for seeing that abortion is disgusting and immoral, and i commend you for taking ownership and wanting the child. If only there were more
guys like you who take responcibilty for their actions.
You have a right to that baby just as much as your girlfriend does
I am a male, ill admit that i will never ever exprience the pain of birth, but damn it life should not be taken away like that, you are the father, if it were the other way around you would still have to pay child support, if you want this baby you should have the right to care for it regardless if the mother wants it or not. It just as much from you as it did her to make that baby and Its yours too.
Get a lawyer, find a way to save that baby, you could be the very person that starts a change for the better in this world, you are not the only man who has had to go through this, and by taking charge and fighting it I pray to God that you suceede, and pave a way for all fathers who want to take care of the children they helped create.
As for your girlfriend, God blessed her with the ability to concieve a child, the least she can do is give birth, and see that it grows up happy, wether its with her or with someone else that child, those little cells that will one day become a human baby have the right to live, regardless of who's body it is. Its the babys body she's killing what so she has the right to say what happens to hers but it doesnt have the right to say what happens it its? given the chance im positive the child would say it wanted to live.......
2006-08-14 19:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Stupendous Man! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No man has any business in deciding what women should do with their bodies....especially when it comes to pregnancy. Sorry that's harsh, but there is no way you guys could possibly know what it's like for a woman to carry a baby. It doesn't matter if someone else would take care of it or not. It's her body. You can't make her, and you shouldn't try. Women are not just recepticles for sperm and vessels for children. Best bet, have a child with someone who wants one, and they are willing to go through all of the suffering of a pregnancy for you.
You move on with life and deal with it.
2006-08-14 19:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about what you are going through. As a woman, if I felt like I wasn't ready to go through that, I couldn't be talked into doing otherwise. If you can't come to an agreement on this, you might have to accept the fact that right now, this isn't meant to be. Perhaps down the road you two will both be ready for a child and will have one together. For now, ask yourself if you are really ready for a child...if you think you are, and she does not want children period, perhaps you should think about finding someone that is more family minded down the road. I know that probably isn't what you want to hear, but you can't force her to change her mind. This is a decision that affects both of you. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-14 19:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by faolan22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married (I assume) .Your lucky she told you.
Have you had a colonoscopy? Until you do 'without" some sedative, let the woman decide. I had one without, My respect for pregnant women has taken a new dimension, the pain was unbelievable. And that was just air, no kicking, stretching on the bladder or all twisting and turning.
You have other problems. Sounds like she does not trust you.
So you a jerk?
2006-08-14 19:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its up to her if she wants to keep the baby or not. If you do want kids maybe u just need to find another girl to have it with. because she dont' want kids right now and there is no real way of telling her to have it. because she has the choice to have it or not. Sorry:(
2006-08-14 19:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that abortion is murder and it shouldn't be allowed talk to her and confront her cuz she did the time now shes gonna pay the time whether or not she likes it. People just don't understand ur taking life from somebody who hasn't even seen it yet :( . But it is her decision God knows just try to change it
2006-08-14 19:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by K.L.C. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its up to her in the end. You can try to talk to her, maybe her parents... maybe your parents, try to talk her into carrying it and putting it up for adoption or signing it over to you...
Its a very very sad place you're in, i hate knowing a baby will lose its life because the mother is afraid to lose her body.
2006-08-14 19:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋