But I know he is not gonna leave his wife, and i don't want him to do it,because I know she loves him,besides I don't wanna hurt anyone.
He has making time to me lately,he is always with me, we talk a lot of time by phone, besides he gets close to me in front of everyone. I don't know what to think.
He told me "I have a dream, and I am making it a goal", he told me that when we were talking about what was gonna happen with our relationship. Please help me, I know I am wrong, I know that I deserve someone just to me, but I really love him, he is always in my mind.
2006-08-14 12:24:46 · 32 answers · asked by ema 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look the same thing happened to me.
I was married and a girl came into our relationship and started to date my husband and that really hurt me because we have three kids together. I thought from her side it was very trashy and disrespectful to just come into another women's relationship, and break a home. KARMA, just think that if he is for you things will happen the right way.
What if he ended up marrying you, wouldn't you like it if he told you the truth then to be playing with your heart. Talk to him and let him know that he needs to make up his mind about his life.
When he is ready then he could call you, when he is single. He can promise you the world and you believe him, well he will always promise you it but never attempt to give it to you. He is playing with both because he knows he can, don't let him. If he loves his wife and won't leave her step aside this men is not meant for you. You are just hurting yourself.
But if the relationship between him and his wife is not working out
let the things settle between both of them and try . But not while she is still in the picture, give yourself respect don't be a home wrecker and a slut. No offense but think that you need better then that.
Good luck!!!!!!! iselar23@yahoo.com if you need more help.
2006-08-14 12:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by latina lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you and respected you, he would not want you to be the "other" woman in this relationship, honey, do yourself a favor and end it now! The longer it goes on, the harder it will be, and don't fool yourself, you will be hurting someone, whether his wife finds out now or 10 years from now, yes, you do deserve someone only for you, leave him alone! Tell him it is over until he has a finalized divorce!!!! Wish you the best of luck with this!
2006-08-14 12:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. Really, I do. I think you need to get out. Move on with your life and away from this guy. You deserve much better. You say that you love him, but I'm sure that once you're done with him, you'll find it was more of an infatuation. Get to know yourself for a while. Make sure that you love and respect yourself before you get involved in another relationship. One of my favorite quotes in from the movie "Rent." It's "You'll never know real love until you love yourself." So let him go and live your life for you. And find someone who will truly love and respect you, who will be with you and only you.
2006-08-14 12:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and he loves you then you should let him divorce the one that he is currently married to cause it is going to hurt her in the long run if she figures out there is an affair going on. You should be happy and be with him if he is the one for you but let him make the decision of leaving his wife to him. and if he wants to leave that is the test to know if he really does respect you or not. and if he doesnt leave his wife then you need to find someone else. you shouldnt have to share the one you love with anyone. that isnt fair to you or the wife!!! Find someone new honey you deserve better.
2006-08-14 12:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by goodtimincountry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, he's married. So unless he cheats or gets a divorce then he isn't going to do anything with you.
I know it hurts, I've had the same thing happen to me.
Maybe he does want to leave his wife, even if you don't know it.
There's really nothing you CAN do... the choice is his. You or her. And since he's 'bound' to her, then it's more likely to be her. He may just know he's got power, he may be a tease, or both. No one knows.
Plus, all he wants is your body. I'd blow him off and move on, no matter how much it hurts him or you.
2006-08-14 12:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's married! You need to move on and stop teasing him into wanting you. If you would end it then maybe the poor man can spend time with HIS WIFE. I would love to wave a magic wand over such trash as you and make you feel the pain that the wife will have if you keep playing with this.
2006-08-14 12:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by passionate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This man's wife washes his underwear, cooks and cleans for him. Did she have his children who now washes their underwear, and cooks and cleans for them,
His wife found him first and has invested more time in him then you will know, and you don't know how to back out of this?
Being in love with someone does not give you the right to interfer in "anyway" with someone who has commitments to someone else.
If you love him truly then say goodbye.
And if you think enough of yourself, you will be able to find a man that is not committed to anyone else, and he will belong to you and you can start a life with him...providing no one comes along and falls in love with the man you invest in.
2006-08-14 12:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HES MARRIED!!!!! Dear back out for now k? Tell him until he decides what to do and who he wants to be with you cant be hanging out with him. This makes u look like a homewreckin whore..Im not trying to be a ***** jsut being honest..is how people see u important to you? Do u want the rep as a homewrecker?
2006-08-14 12:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lilmisssassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are already hurting someone, don't fall in love with a married person it is almost guaranteed that it will end badly so you should whatever relationship exist and be glad that you did not have sex he does not respect you because you can't respect others if you do not respect yourself, what future is there if you can't have all of him there's no real love
2006-08-14 12:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by greenluxi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I didn't have sex with him either but it doesn't make things right. It can't work out and you should get it all together, suck it up, and tell him it's not right. You love him but both of you know it's not right. Tell him if he loves you to come back when he's divorced.
2006-08-14 12:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mama R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋