I am a youth pastor and ultimately believe that all teens are good and can change their lives from being punks to good respectable human beings and be part of society. but i notice even some that i have that go to church are also very disrespectful as if it's the norm...hmmmm....maybe it starts at home
2006-08-14 12:08:44 · 12 answers · asked by wildchristian 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's probably because a lot of parents let their kids run over top of them. I KNOW that it is impossible to try to start discilining a child once they turn 13. How stupid is that? Teach them while they're young and they will learn respect.
2006-08-14 12:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the parents...
When I was real young, I started off as such a bright and intelligent child. I used to LOVE helping my mom & dad and was always a good listener even at age 5!
As I began growing up, I became disrespectful. My father had become an alcoholic and verbally abused my mother & I. He would call me fat and not because I was big, because I was always a skinny girl, but because when he came in from the bar, I was usually eating something. He was and still to this day is addicted to marijuana. At age 9, 10, & 11 these things were new to me. I felt my "perfect" family wasn't so perfect anymore. I mean I knew we had our disagreements and problems but nothing ever established to my dad throwing valuable things around and actually pulling out a gun to me, telling me "this is what I was gonna do to that dude that wanted to steal my jacket". I was 11 when he did that. After these encounters, I began disrespecting him & my mom. When he wasn't drunk or high (only when he came home from work cuz by the end of the night oh, he was for sure high and drunk) I was very rude to him. He made me disgusted. I started treating my mom disrespectful because she stayed with him and let her kids watch this daily abuse over and over and over again, broken promises she made so I started to not trust her.
I am now in my late teens & will be in my last year of highschool this September. I have decided myself about a year ago to stop being disrespectful although I am dissapointed in my mother and father.
My father has actually convinced my mom that alcoholism and addictions to marijuana are the thing to do... she is now drinking & smoking as well.
I've lost a great deal of respect for them but I myself decided to change. Why should I waste my time being mean and disrespectful because of my parents? Why let them get the best of me? I can't wait to move and you know what I am thankful for the way they are because it's going to make me rich!! (When I write my book!)
So anyway, the moral is teens go through so much at this age. Some are abused, some raped, some raped from a family member [incest], etc. It's a tough world for teens. I think each one will reach that level where they act with respect, sometime. Some before others... but eventually they will be respectful and hopefully teach their kids respect.
2006-08-14 12:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think that some is from home but I don't total agree with that becuase my mother raised my sister and I the same and we are so different. I go to church like we was taught and I am very respectful to my superiors but my sister on the other hand let me tell you she is in her own little world. I think it has a lot to do with the friends you pick and hang out with.
2006-08-14 12:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_girl_19822001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never do exactly what people tell you to do, you should question authority cause they are humans too and make mistakes,
teens get confused because they are learning about what its good and what is wrong
anything that harms anyone its wrong, but you cant keep everyone happy
2006-08-14 12:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by crisis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you never a teenager? You should be able to answer that from personal experience. Everyone goes through that at some point.
2006-08-14 13:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 16, and I'm not disrespectful..
2006-08-14 12:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
parents not discipling the child properly!
2006-08-14 12:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by +++++ SPOOK ++++ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people like you that put all teens into one category....we aren't all disrespectful.
2006-08-14 12:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Paulien 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they think they know everything and don't have to listen to anyone.
2006-08-14 12:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Halle Berry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lack of responsibility for actions...lack of accountability for actions... by parents
2006-08-14 14:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋