he's been told on by 3 people that he was smoking at the park. 2 days later he fessed up. now he was told on again by a diffent 3 people that he was the one that colored on my daughters doll. he is sitting at the tabel right now telling me that he didn't do it. he's 15.
2006-08-14 12:05:44 · 20 answers · asked by elmirah33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you know he did, then punish him for defacing the doll and punish him again for lying. At his age, he needs to know the consequences for lying. If he thinks he can lie his way out of any situation, he is going to get into a lot of trouble.
2006-08-14 12:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15 there is nothing you can do but talk. If you are a smoker then try quiting together odds are he has been smoking longer then you think.As for the doll it was either done out of being Bord or you treat and talk to your daughter the way he wishes you did him.This is a way to get out his frustrations.better the doll then your daughter (been there done that 20 years ago)You can say love but a child needs to feel it.
2006-08-14 19:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by reddograin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 17 year old teenager myself, and I once too had a lying problem. For me it went alot deeper than just not wanting to get caught at whatever I was doing, I just didn't want my parents knowing because I didn't want them to be disappointed. They weren't and still aren't very supportive, but my lying did become a big issue. Everything was taken away from me, my car, my cell phone, my T.V., all I was allowed to do was homework and read, I wasn't allowed to go anywhere or do anything. Now, I'm NOT saying those steps are necessary to handle this situation, but in order to gain my parents trust back, I got one item at a time each week if I had been honest and open. Us as teenagers just want to feel like we're supported, and we really do care about what you have to say. Don't take him anywhere to get him analyzed. Just talk to him about all of it, and listen. Honest open communication is really what's going to fix this. If a child trusts and believes their parents will support them no matter what, they will confide in you almost anything because they won't have to worry about being criticized.
2006-08-14 19:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand that telling the truth doesn't mean trouble. The reason he 'lies' probably stems from the fact that he does not want you to look at him unfavorably. In other words, you need to be more inviting and more open about his problems. You need to ask yourself "WHY" is he doing these things and not just instantly punish him and not discuss the reason he does what he does. In lesser words, get to the root of the problem, maybe it's something you can help him with.
2006-08-14 19:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by larceny'sghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him accountable to you for every move he makes. He should be made to understand that trust is the major foundation of any relationship. When he lies and breaks this trust, he must work to earn it back.
For every lie you catch him in, ground him and with each subsequent lie make the consequences more strict. If he doesnt already do them, assign him household chores that keeps him busy after school and on weekends.
When he has worked off his punishment and you allow him to go out, go with him. The restraint of having mom and dad tag along might alone cure him.
God luck
2006-08-14 19:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bet you he is smoking pot. Most young ins who smoke cigarettes also use marijuana. Luckily he is only 15. Lying is usually associated with a need to hide something. Hope you can straighten him out.
2006-08-14 19:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking away privileges and if it continues I'd send him to boot camp. At his age you have to do something drastic or he'll just escalate into something much worse.
2006-08-14 19:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in for a rough go now unless you can find help for him now , he's already found that lieing is better , needs to find the value of life and being honest will get farther in life
2006-08-14 19:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 15 leave him alone you know coloring on lil dolls is way over his age so maybe he didn't
2006-08-14 19:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by Dum Spiro Spero 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a problematic son of yours..he shouldn't be behaving like that as he is already 15. but it's better to check why he behave that terrible..there must be reason's u got to solve..
2006-08-14 19:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋