Okay, here is the DL, this guy.. likes me.. and i thought i liked him.. but once i got to know him better.. it was NOT meant to be.. he keeps calling me and IMing me adn talking to me at school.. but im really not interested anymore. i know it was wrong to lead him on.. but i needed attention bc i dont get it from anyone.. =\ homecoming is soon.. and he told my BFF he was going to aks me.. i dont want to go with him.. how do i say no? and how do i back out of this relationship/thing without hurting him badly? HELP!
2006-08-14 12:01:25 · 13 answers · asked by carl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all you are not the first to have this problem. It is a problem but only to the extent it bothers you.
When we date we never really know how we are going to feel about a person when we get to know them. What looks very good can turn out all wrong.
When you say you led him on.....I assume that means you went out with him a few times. Or does that include kissing.......sex.
You are not responsible for how he feels. You are responsible for how you treat him. While there is no way to keep from hurting him, how you do it will reflect on your character and integrity.
If you can't face him have your BFF tell him, in a nice way, that you are no longer interested and won't be going to the homecoming with him. No easy way to do it but now is much better than later. If you keep going with him sooner or later you will hurt him far worse.
Guys that really likes a girl will look for any sign he can get that will tell him how she feels. He will often mistake what she does for something good when she had no intention of that.
He will not give up on you until you tell him to. You must do it. Just be sure you let him down easy.
2006-08-14 12:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if you don't like him, why are you so afraid of hurting him?
Just tell him that you aren't interested. He will understand that, unless he's a spark raving mad stalker.
If you continue to lead him on, never saying you like him, but never saying you don't like him either, he will continue to live in the illusion that you two are meant to be. That isn't nice! If you aren't interested, just tell it straight to his face.
Even better would be to also tell him why you aren't interested anymore. That way, he will learn from the experience, and you also save the next girl from him moving too fast.
2006-08-14 12:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you never liked him, and are the type who leads men on. I think you're being too quick to reach that conclusion. Reconsider! But if he's no longer where you are, there shouldn't be a problem. There is no way to break up with hurting him/her. You've likely already hurt him, deliberately. YOu naughty girl!
2006-08-14 12:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been seeing this guy for 8 months... provide up leading him on in case you at the instant are not interested in him in that way. you're in hassle-free terms going to wreck him greater the longer you string him alongside. enable him be conscious of how you sense. in case you desperate to make a sparkling injury or stay pals the two is cool he will a least be conscious of the place he stands with you.
2016-09-29 06:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo tell him about that new chris brown hit goodbye and u sent it out 2 him then tell him ur cool wit a friendship and thats it in a nice way good luck try 2 brake no more hearts
2006-08-14 12:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by yanira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with him BEFORE he asks you to Homecoming. You are going to hurt him no matter what you do so even if you text him or email him, do it quickly.
2006-08-14 12:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurry up and ask some one to homecoming b 4 he asks yooh...i dont really think yooh have time to b shy..so juss make a move on the guy yooh wanna go wit..or play stupid and act like yooh dont noe that he wants to ask yooh and tell the him that yooh really like some one else and that yooh hope he asks yooh..
2006-08-14 12:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by latina beana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him now and tell him the truth.
better hurt him now then lead him on and hurt him more later.
wouldnt you want someone to be honest with you?
2006-08-14 12:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by iamlaura2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with now before you hurt him even more
2006-08-14 12:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him..instead of dodging him and lying.. why dont you just have your bff tell him you are interested in someone else
2006-08-14 12:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋