I was there with him and i got it with him (she was on both of us) and he said he wouldnt get one without me there or if i didn't want one...it just looked weird with her on him...and he enjoyed it...i was just upset that it was someone else making him happy...
2006-08-14 11:57:45 · 49 answers · asked by Kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he's coming home to you, don't worry about it, he seems like a genuine guy. I'm sure you had to have enjoyed the girl on both of you guys? If not and you don't like to see him, then next time don't go with him...it would be like another guy turning you on and you going home to your man. don't trip too much unless he's doing more than that. you seem to be an understanding girl as well, he's lucky to have you go with him to a place like htat.
2006-08-14 12:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be upset if he had gone alone without you? I think he's showing respect in some way by taking you with him. Take it lightly, alot of guys are obsessed with lap dancers. Do what my sister-in-law did.
She got lap dancing lessons and gives them to my brother on a weekly basis. She bought outfits and strips for him as well. I tell you....it will do the trick with your bf and if you were married, it would spice up any marriage.
Or tell him it bothered you that he enjoyed himself so much. Don't blame her, she's just doing her job for that buck.
Good luck!
2006-08-14 12:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should respect your wishes. If he wants a lap dance why doesn't he ask you? You are his girl and y'all should be doing that together. And personally if he enjoys other women doing that then he's trying to say that you are not doing your duty like you should be as his girl friend so what you should do is take him and rock his world in the bed. Make him forget why he got that lap dance. Let him know who is the boss.
2006-08-14 12:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like when you women get upset when your boyfriend watches porn...ofcourse he enjoyed it...Who wouldn't...He's a guy get over it...If you don't like that kind of thing you should have said No, in the first place. Plus, you were there. He probably felt comfortable enough in your presence to kick back a bit. And its good he has the conscience to say he wouldn't do it without you. Seriously, people totally screw up relationships with the stuff that doesn't matter. Now, let it go.
2006-08-14 12:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he doesn't get more. Relationships with lots of jealousy typically don't last long. Believe me! And what is so wrong about a lap dance from somebody else anyways?! I am sure you are looking at other guys sometimes too, maybe even have fantasies about them. Do you think your partner should be worried about that? No, didn't think so. So chill out and don't worry so much.
2006-08-14 12:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by naddel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was for what, maybe 5 minutes? You're the one that makes him happy, that's why he's with you. And to her, it's just a business - he's long forgotten. Gotta let a guy have a little fun, especially if he wanted to make sure you were okay with it. And besides, he came home with you, didn't he?
If he starts returning for lap dances without you, then you have reason to worry.
2006-08-14 12:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh...thats like really bad...to me and many other women and men. Its like saying I wouldnt have sex with another women unless you are okay with it, and you saying that you are....how is this normal? I dont see how you could even allow him to see a stripper at all. Its one thing to "look", but when you "look and like", thats when you should be worried. The reason why cheating is cheating is because its the thought and the act of wanting someone else. He wants someone else it your case, its just you know about it. How wrong is this? The act of checking another guy or girl out is the same as wanting that person because if given the opportunity , you would flirt, or ask that person out if it wasnt for your current partner. Cheating is just the act on your thoughts, so most men just hide their thoughts of wanting another women, but they fantasies a lot about them, and of course of you too, its just that its not considered cheating unless they act on those thoughts. I on the other hand consider the fantasies, and thoughts of wants cheating also, because the only reason why he hasnt done it is because he hadnt had the opportunity or because he's afraid of loosing me. I bet if I allowed it like you did, he would certainly act on those thoughts. think about it. If i make any sense.
2006-08-14 12:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely not cheating. You two did it together and you both chose it. You really need to talk it through with him and let him know how you feel. It sounds like he was very willing to do whatever you wanted at the time.
BTW, this is why threesomes are such a bad idea. Things like this prey on the insecurities that we all have and raise questions about the relationship that are hard to deal with. It just isn't worth it to put a relationship at risk for this sort of thing.
2006-08-14 12:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be upset, he has to get the lap dance from some else other than you
2006-08-14 12:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure!!!!Because with all of that sexual tension that he has after getting the lap dance, will eventually have to be released. And that's where you come in, after you'll come back from the club or while you are at the club just ****. I mean wild, crazy, sweaty *******. You can even add the stripper in if you want to.
2006-08-14 12:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by japanesegeishagirl_chynadoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋