Culture difference.....?

Question

How much will it affect in a relationship having different culture?

Answer 1

it depends on the person i married a Filipino and i love the culture,, you both have to work on it and you cant force someone to love your culture ,,it has to come from your heart

Answer 2

A lot. Two adventurous people can have a wonderful period of discovery. If you are young and just dating, it can be a great experience.

As the relationship grows more serious then the cultural differences can become more pronounced.

I have found it is most often challenging in the fundamentals: family, money, affection, parenting. Seemingly small differences in culture can add substantial pressure and stress if not managed thoughtfully and with consideration ( I personally do this quite poorly most of the time).

The degree of the differences and other circumstances can also be a factor. My wife is from South America while I am from the US. Overall, we are both from Western European backgrounds and outside of food and her objectionable taste in music, nothing is too big to overcome. That being said, if her family lived closer, I am not sure we would have survived the level of involvement they maintain in her cousins relationship.

I would advise that you make your decision on whether they appear to be a decent person. If so, explore, follow your head, and your heart, and just make good decisions.

Answer 3

Cultural differences can take some time to adjust to, however, if the important ingredients of a relationship are present this should not be that big a problem.

Values, religious views, politics, child rearing practices (if there are small children involved) respect, communication skills, etc. are in this writer's opinion much more important in determining success in any relationship.

With any luck, and after family and friends get to know each other, any differences can be a source of amusement, thereby creating an even bigger bond between the parties.


Good Luck to you. Peace

Answer 4

Whatever each person brings to a relationship will affect it. I am assuming you are in a relationship because you each find the other one with whom you want to spend time, energy, and love. I think in the long run it isn't the culture that would negatively affect a relationship, it would be the two individuals changing and finding different ways of being.

Answer 5

It depends on what kind of person you are. If you are highly adaptable, and a lover of diversity then differences will only enhance the charm of a cross-cultural relationship. If however, you have a closed-off mindset where it comes to new ideas and ways of thinking, then it's likely to end badly. Even under the best of circumstances many things will be new to you and not all of them will be pleasant, but that's the beauty in the challenge...the opportunity to confront unknowns and add their uniqueness to your own; in that way, you'll gain a better understanding of what you're all about in the process. Good luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 6

Shouldn't be too much as long as the 2 people have similar basic values & morales. Also helps if both are open minded, interested & curious about each other cultures. The thing is all cultures have their positives and negatives and it could be a great thing if you could learn to take the positives and drop the negatives.

Answer 7

it can be a HUGE different if each partner is not open to the new culture, and open in general to new ways of thought and action. I myself am in a multi racial relationship and have been for a few years. Dont be fooled that because weve both been raised in canada that we view cultural things the same.We still come from very different worlds. Although I dont always agree with his way of thought, and nor his mine, we always work things out. im white, hes black. I now realize how much I take for granted being white in a white society. Even the little things like umm easily finding bandages that match my skin color.....anyways if you try to understand whats up with your partners culture everyhting can be just fine....mixed is good, shows us that the world is growing up. And besides, mixed couple have the cutest kids!!

Answer 8

in some ways cultural differences can be an argument with each other but dont let it affect your relationshonship its just the same as arguing and debating some other things on a relationship.. if he dont understand your culture explain to him why is it like that so the same with you... if you are both in love with each other its just nothing just let love be the center of your relationship... just have patience to explain and understand each others view regarding your culture.. so dont worry too much about it, just count it as one of important things to discuss with your patner and tell him you love him and cultural differences cant change that.. and im sure both of you will enjoy knowing each others culture..

Answer 9

That depends on your communications' skills. I just apologized to someone on my staff because I was late with a reply to one of his questions. He is from India and told me that they don't believe that the "elderly" should apologize to someone young. I had to laugh because here in the US when you think of "elderly" that description is for someone really up there, like late 60's or 70's. I'm 51 and I really don't think of myself as "elderly." (Although to some of the teenie weenies and 20-30 somethings hanging out here that probably sounds fairly "ancient")

Anyway, my point is that culture and language and communication all go hand-in-hand. You have to be willing to put in the time and effort and then do a whole lot of talking to ensure you communicate well and also smooth over the inevitable misunderstandings that would be exascerbated by the joining of two people with very different cultures.

Answer 10

A LOT! If two people raised in two different families in the same town can have tons of difference imagine if your raised in a totally differrent country with a whole different culture! Both of the parties have to learn each other culture, find a middle ground and COMPROMISE.

Answer 11

That all depends on how much you let it affect the relationship. Having a multicultural relationship can help you to learn more about the world in general, and you may find that you have more to talk about than other couples, because your childhoods and pasts are greatly varied. Your experiences will help one another to grow, if you let them. So enter a multicultural relationship with an open mind, and most importantly, an eagerness to learn, and you may find it surprising how rewarding the relationship can be.