Need help! My GF and i been 2gether for 4 yrs. when she is at work she cant talk to me even if i want to. when i am at work she wont understand that i cant talk longer either. she can tell me some time i am slefish, i am stupid or so when she is mad. if i am upset and say some thing like you r so selfish. she hung up the phone one me. i am sick. 103 fevor and i am trying to tell her. she ignoed me and asking me what she wants to have for dinner. Do you think she loves me? She always say she loved me alot. i am confused. please sensibale answer only please
2006-08-14 11:11:45 · 14 answers · asked by unknown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to tell you but she dont love you anymore. Similar thing happen to me.
2006-08-14 11:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she does love you. But she doesn't sound very understanding. 4 years is a long time.. so there might be something there. You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel, that she doesn't listen to you and she needs to. She needs to take care of you when you'r sick, not ignore you. She may just not be for you, but if you only want her and no one else, then you have to work through these problems with her
2006-08-14 18:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by misomeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is too comfortable in the relationship with you, it's easy for her to treat you that way since you have let her. People only do to you what you let them. You need to understand that she can't talk when she's at work, just as she needs to understand the same. If she is so self centered to only think of herself and what she's gonna eat for dinner, rather than what she can get at the store medicine wise to make you feel better, you're better off w/o her. I have been in that SAME relationship, and it gets NOWHERE, regardless of how many times you try over and over, you always will wind up in the same spot...where you are right now! She thinks it's easier to stick in the relationship and make you miserable, rather than cutting ties and going seperate ways. It feels like you "owe it to the relationship" since you've been together for 4 years...you're just wasting time. You need to move on...she may love you, but not the way you are wanting her to, and she's not showing you love at all. You need to think if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life, with her treating you this way and that uncertainty that is weighing on your mind. when you get married there is no fairy that comes and sprinkles "happy dust" on you when you say "i do"...it just makes things more complicated. Good luck...
2006-08-14 18:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she fights with you she still feels something for you. Even the most cantankerous women won't argue with someone they don't care about or whom doesn't interrest them. If she's making you miserable and trampling over your feelings you need to be firm with her. Set boundries with her and don't back down "You cannot call me at work unless it's an emergency, I'll see you in 3 hours" "Either get me some cough medicine or shut up and let me rest, I'm really sick" "I don't think either of us are stupid, I think you should cool off before we continue talking about this.." If she can't handle you sticking up for yourself and she leaves you then what really have you lost? Certainly not your self-respect.
2006-08-14 18:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean or anything but she seems like she doesnt want the relationship anymore and doesnt know how to tell you because after being with someone for 4yrs you just kinda get used to them it's not even love anymore. she obviously doesnt know what she wants. but the only way to find out is if you tell her that you want to have a serious talk with her and let her know how your feeling and ask her what she is feeling talking openly leaving nothing out that way if she doesnt want the relationship she could let you know now before you hurt somemore!
2006-08-14 18:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she loves you in her way. There needs to be a little better understanding between the two of you if you are going to make your relationship work. Good luck.
2006-08-14 18:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she cares for you. It sounds like she cares for only her self. There is alot of women out there. I am sure you deserve better!!1 I know it can be hard to move on but I think that would be the best. It sounds like you need someone who will care about your feelings too. Most of use are like you.
2006-08-14 18:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by mycatlizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's a selfish, self absorbed b*tch and you'll never get in return what you give to her. I wouldn't' do it and its not what I would call love. You have to remember though that everyone defines love different, all that matters is whether what you have fits your definition or not. Doesn't sound like it to me.
2006-08-14 18:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if she loves you or not, but she seems to be very immature.
2006-08-14 18:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by tnmtngirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's looking for a way out. Don't let her have it! ha
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2006-08-14 18:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Codename Romance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋