I have known this girl for 2 years and she is my best friend. I like her more than a friend and I think she might like me like that (everyone says she does) but I need help. Whenever we text we seem alot closer. She tells me about her problems and we flirt. When we hang out we dont talk seriously (because we have other friends around).
If we are walking and we touch off each other she doesnt mind and she is more touchy with me than others.
Please help. What is the case? Does she like me more than a friend? What should I do?
2006-08-14 11:03:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like she likes you a lot. Just be straight up with her and tell her that you like her but that her friendship is more important to you and that if she doesn't want to pursue a relationship then that's okay with you. Just make sure you are taking how she is going to feel into consideration and then put the ball in her court.
2006-08-14 11:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say. Some people are natural flirts. It is most definitely easier to be open when you are not face to face with people though. If you two are best friends and have been for a couple years, talk to her about it. If it is easier to talk about it over text, then start there. It sounds possible that she likes you for more than a friend, but you won't know for sure if you don't discuss it.
2006-08-14 18:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was growing up, one of my friends was convinced that every girl that give him the slightest bit of attention "wanted him". Just because she gives you attention, doesn't mean that she is in love with you. You may want to bring it up in a way that your relationship is the same after the talk, in case it's just you. Maybe
"I really like you as a friend but sometime it seams like you are giving me signals that you want to move to a more romantic relationship, which I may be alright with. I'd have to think about it more."
Or
"How do you see our relationship in 10 years? Best friends or husband and wife?"
Or just wait and play it by ear. You don't have to rush everything man.
2006-08-14 18:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be. In fact, it probably is.
However, electronic communication is notoriously deceptive.
The only way you can know is to communicate MORE with her,
perhaps with higher bandwidth communication (like ... TALKING).
Why don't you just ask her out to some low stress thing like roller
skating or coffee or whatever?
(for those of you who have heard my spiel, stop reading. This
is canned...)
Dating is a skill: The only way you get better at it is to do it.
Ask people out that you like, but aren't salivating for, and
learn to interact with them. As you do so and people find
that you are appealing, you gain confidence.
As you gain confidence, you also become more appealing
and you can broaden the people who you ask out with
a higher probability of getting "yes" answers. Even if you
get "no"s, you now have enough perspective to not let
it alter how you interact with other people.
2006-08-14 18:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one. A lot of people do get touchy feely with best friends of the opposite sex. I think if you want to be with her and you want to le her know u like her then u should proceed with caution and accept that you could lose your friendship.
If you don't feel that way and are perfectly happy with how things are then don't do anything.
2006-08-14 18:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by scaryclairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to be very honest with this answer. If you value your friendship and want it to last, don't get involved with each other in any other way.
I had a friend for 6 years and we got together because I brought it up and it ended miserably....
Be sure you want to risk your friendship to be together. Only you can decide what more valuable.
2006-08-14 18:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by tatyana_anya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on your feelings...as long as they wont hurt the friendship in the long run. I did that before :( As far as the texting...you should sit and have some alone time to talk about it. Ask her on a date...wothout the other friends. Good luck
2006-08-14 18:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she actually shares loving feelings towards you, take the time out and ask her if she is str8 or has others exual preferences and behaviours other than those a females shares with the opposite sex.
2006-08-14 18:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by Italian Empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey while txting each other, why dont u ask to go out just you and her not otehr friends around? so that you could have a chance to talk seriously about what she thinks about you, group meetings will always keep you distant...
2006-08-14 18:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by AllsTar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to set up some time when it can be just you and her, with no one else there so that you can just tell her what is on your mind, and then ask her what she feels about you, and go from there, that is all it takes to find out. good luck
2006-08-14 18:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋