being ready for a baby?

Question

OK so my first question got alot of good answers. But alot of people took me the wrong way. I know how hard it is to raise a child. I have 5 sisters and my oldest is on her 3rd child and shes 23. Shes a single mother and shes fine. I no i am ready for a baby. Im not going to rush my boyfriend. No means no and he said no. I no i can do anything if i put my mind to it. I see 17 yr old haven kids and haven abortions. I hate that. I guess it will happen at the right time when its sopoased to. I would never go behind his back. I dont want to loose the guy. He does tell me he has plans for me. But he dont say what kind of plans... I just wish i new. It kinda depresses me knowing that he doesnt want a baby right now.. more advice plz!!! thanks guys

Hey everyone! Thank you so much for all of the advice. But i did talk to my boyfriend about a baby and everything. He told me that he wants to get our own place first and he does want to marry me first. He said to give him a year at the most. I was very happy at his answer. I believe in him n our relationship. I want to get some collage time in and a better job also! I appreciate everyones advice!! Thanks everyone again

Answer 1

If your oldest sister is 23, that means you are very young yourself. You have PLENTY of time to have children. Enjoy your life as a single person, and get a job somewhere where you can work around kids.

Children are great ... I have 5 myself ... but it is a huge responsibility to parent well, and it goes without saying that having children changes your life forever. It is not something to enter into on a whim.

The best idea is to wait until you are married. Parenting is hard enough when you have 2 involved parents ... I can't imagine how difficult it must be for unmarried or singles.

Good luck :O)

Answer 2

im not a single mother although sometimes i feel as though i am my 1st daughter is 14 months old and im 36 weeks preggo with my second daughter im a stay at home mom but i run a day care out of my house and here lately my hubby has been working 7 days a week because i went on maternity leave to spend time with my daughter before the newest addition arrives! i personally don't know how your sister does it! i have had a few nervous break downs! although i love my daughter with all my heart when my hubby works alot it is hard on me! you should really see if you sister wants some help with the kids maybe you could baby sit a few days a week to give her a break so that you can see what it is like to have babies this guy doesn't seem to know what he wants so what if he gets you preggo and leaves you? when you have a baby, the words I and me no longer exist! i am so glad there are people on these boards who believe in moral values and ask you to wait until marriage to have a baby! that would be awsome even if youre not married when you have the baby please at least wait until this guy figures out what he wants in the mean time concentrate on you! im 20 and i have a wonderful life with an amazing hubby and a beautiful daughter but its still hard bringing a baby into the world as a single parent or into a disfunctional relationship is selfish and you don't want to deprive your child of the life it deserves, a loving caring enviroment! mother hood changes your outlook on everything so please wait a little longer! not just for your sake but for an innocent baby's sake who never asked to be brought into the world in the first place and who definitely doesn't diserve to be aborted because of immaturity and negligence.

Answer 3

The thought of making a baby seems to be a rush for you. I fathered children when I was young, and took care of them until they were 18. I never missed a child support payment and had the kids every week. My kids love me, but It was hard on them and still is even though the oldest is old enough to be your father. Please consider holding off until your kids have a dad. Most men these days don't have the balls to pay support and marry the mother. So if you do have a child, please keep in mind that it may be a one woman show. Do you want that?

Answer 4

i know how you feel by wanting a baby so badly. I do too. However it's not fair to the baby to have it before you are married. Hopefully this is the right guy for you, but you never know what can happen. It would be so much better for the baby to wait till you are married and know you are with the right guy. It's not fair for the baby to grow up without a dad if you could help it. So I guess we just have to be patient. Actually it might scare your bf off if you keep telling him you want a baby so badly right now. Good luck I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

.hello, all i can tell you is maybe he is not financially ready to take care of a baby and it' still a lot of things he wants to do with his life. Don't rush it, being so persistent can make a guy pull away from you. I'm a 25 year old single mother of two, and having kids will put you back a little bit on some of the things you want to do like having fun with your friends. when you have kids, you are not able to do the things you used to do when you didn't have a child,sometimes you don't want to take them everywhere you go but you have to, so i agree with your boyfriend putting off having kids until later even if you think you can take care of them, only time will tell.

Answer 6

You should get a pet.. maybe a small dog you can pretty up.. Or a kitten.. something you can be motherly too. You can maybe offer to babysit other ppls babies. Thats what I'd do, cause you can always give them back and you can spoil them and you even get paid for it. I have two kids and I was that 17 yr old that had a baby.. I dont regret it one bit.. I have my second lil girl she's 6 mons.. luv her!! Well, so does my friend she spoils the hell out of her wishes she was hers and i pay her to watch her even if she offers all the time.. and asks when im going to bring her back.. Its nice.. try it! BTW now im 25, now.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Remember that once you have a baby there´s no turning back. Believe me single mothers are not "fine". They may put up a good front and pretend like they´re not struggling but believe me they are. Don´t be deceived.

Answer 9

it is good on no means no but yes now could mean disaster in even a couple of months time when especially you are living from foot to mouth....for sex everything is fine and many promises made......much later commitment and responsibilities gone through the window and you expect your poor parents to come to your wanton aid?

Answer 10

Babysit for your sisters kids a LOT until it cures you of wanting a baby too soon.