Where to have a supervised visitation?

Question

My husband has physical custody of his two children. Thier mom left them in 2001, got married, moved to AZ and had 4 more kids. My stepchildren feel abandoned by thier mother. Anway- its been 2 years since she last saw them, and about 3 months since has spoken to them. We have retained an attorney, and in the process of trying to get sole custody of the children. Thoughout the two years, she has attempted to see the kids... by threating to steal them, kill my husband and I, threats left on the machince- thus resulting to never visiting them for thier own protection. Many times, arrgements has been made where she has agreed, and not show up. Also, has not paid any child support she is court orderd to do.Long story short- she is asking for a supervised visitation... wherer would a supervised visitation take place? This woman has a lot of tricks up her sleeve- I am afraid that she may hurt the children physically & mentally.

Answer 1

Arrange supervised visitation through the court at the local child services office. Personally I would get a court order beforehand sueing for sole custody and no visitational rights before she actually sees them again,, after that length of time most courts consider she has abandoned them already,, also if you have proof of the threats to them and your husband, the court will not look kindly on that.

Answer 2

this is realy sad that we have preants like this my mom left my twin sister and i when we were 3 months old, but any way, i have been thought this with my young brother and sister. i say if you fear for safty the best place to meet up would be at a police station, that way if and thing happends like she does try to hurt you and or you husband and the kids thay are right there. this is also a grate place beacuse of the fact that you guys try to get sole custody of the kids if she does not show the you can have an office make a note in their books that both parties were going to meet ther and she never showed so when you go to court and she sayts somthing like i have made appamts to see my kids but they will not let me you guys would have prove that you need that you have try but see is the one not showing up. hope all goes will for you all

Answer 3

You husband chose to have children with this woman (why would you marry a man who was attracted to such a character?) You should stop trying to get complete custody, the fact is she is their mother. You say they feel abandoned, telling them there mom is no longer their mom would only make them feel worse. (you could do a lot to make them feel better about her absence in their lives) Stop trying to make your "happy ever after family" and make her a part of their lives. Have supervised visitation in the home of a third party. When the children are older they can decide how much contact they want with her. Sorry lady you married into this mess now live with it.

Answer 4

You set up a place. The supervised visits are supervised by a court appointed CPS worker. Its less dangerous for everyone. She probably wont show up anyway. Especially since she has to pay for these visitations up front.

Answer 5

I would make the court appoint her supervised visitation before I let those kids near her. What a sad situation, but good for you for being a role model in their life. You are their one chance at a sane mother figure.....good luck.

Answer 6

i wouldnt give her the time of day. maybe you should see if the children want to see her first. if they dont, dont force them.

but i would say do it infront of a police station or at the mall where lots of people are.

Answer 7

the police station is a great place. also the public library.

Answer 8

you should hold the visitation at a church then when she walks in you can throw holy water on her and watch the Bi#ch melt!!!!