Where to have a supervised visitation?

Question

My husband has physical custody of his two children. Thier mom left them in 2001, got married, moved to AZ and had 4 more kids. My stepchildren feel abandoned by thier mother. Anway- its been 2 years since she last saw them, and about 3 months since has spoken to them. We have retained an attorney, and in the process of trying to get sole custody of the children. Thoughout the two years, she has attempted to see the kids... by threating to steal them, kill my husband and I, threats left on the machince- thus resulting to never visiting them for thier own protection. Many times, arrgements has been made where she has agreed, and not show up. Also, has not paid any child support she is court orderd to do.Long story short- she is asking for a supervised visitation... wherer would a supervised visitation take place? This woman has a lot of tricks up her sleeve- I am afraid that she may hurt the children physically & mentally.

Answer 1

Have your lawyer set it up in the confines of a State Agency, like child protective services. Better yet, if you have any proof of what you are saying, have your lawyer go for sole custody with no contact for the mother. This can be done. It would have happened with my daughter if I had not been part of the solution for my granddaughter. As things stand with us now. The father and I share joint managing conservatorship with the baby living with him. My daughter can only see her daughter when supervised by me. We did not have threats of violence and harm. If we did there would be no contact at all.

Answer 2

Supervised visitation is many times only ordered in circumstances the place the youngster would be endangered with the aid of the guy doing the traveling ie a historic previous of abuse. Did your husband ever abuse the youngster (or her mom?) If no longer, the probabilities of a decide ordering supervised visitation are slender. if your husband is extreme approximately being an area of this little lady's life fork over the money for a lawyer AFTER the ever-present necessary mediation is exhausted. Doing so till now will possibly purely see your retainer/value eaten up with the aid of pointless courtroom filings. shop a log of what she says and does. each and every time she is verbally abusive on your huband, notice the date, time and what became into stated. Be meticulous, yet do no longer make issues up. Even extra advantageous if a independent witness occurs to be there whilst she's ranting and raving, get their call and call selection/address in the event that they may well be prepared to testify. The little issues upload as much as help in kin courtroom.

Answer 3

Supervised visitation usually is controlled by the court they will tell you where and when you will have nothing to do with it.They have there own people who do the supervising.You just have to show up with the children.You have to watch everything you do and say to the social workers they will be taking notes that can be used against you.You can not say that the other women is bad and this and that.They are trained to weed out what is best for the children.It would be better if she does not show up for her visits with them when they are being supervised than she will lose all her rights.Your husband can sue for back child support.Unless there is a good reason she has not paid.A lot of lawyers use that as a bargaining chip.If you have custody-she will have to pay for both children.More if you keep them in daycare and for lessons the children might need.You can also start asking her to save for college.Have your lawyer get it in writing,she has to pay half.She will be running back to AZ and you and your husband will get complete custody.Good Luck!

Answer 4

your husband needs to have full legal sole physical custody of the children so she will not have any part of the children lives..and yes a mother can be gone for a long time and come back and have rights with physical custody that means part yours and part mine..may be next time you will do your paper work on abandonment.in order to get full sole custody you need proof of unfit parent ..if you are doing supervised visitation you need to use a agency called haven house it is ran by a child protective service for drug abuse or for foster child look for one near you ask question because if it is not in court order paper work it is no good make sure that it states no friends or relatives are to attend the visit or you will have a big mess and have a drug test be for the visit some times when they have to many rules they will refuse the visit but on the other hand if the continue to do good and show the court they can later ask for regal er visits

Answer 5

Try your local police or sheriff department some will let you do it in rooms on premise some will not. Supervised visitation has to be ok'ed by the judge you cant just demand it, so be careful about how you phrase things. It is a good thing she asked and you didn't request. I had something similar happen to me when my ex came back from the first Gulf War. He really wasn't sane and thankfully knew he wasn't right. But my Dad was an attorney and gave me some great advise that really helped me win sole custody.
1- Don't say anything in court no matter how tempting or angry you get that can not be proved...like my ex said he was going to cut the baby out of my stomach which scarred the h*ll out of me but since no one else heard it - it didn't happen- the judges hear so much stuff that is made up you just look like you are the one telling tales. Let her record of non contact speak for itself.
2- Never, never, never, never say anything negative about "Mom" even thou she may deserve it. It will only make the kids not like you, and if you husband does it, it will make them feel bad about themselves because she is part of them. Again let her inactivity and actions speak for themselves.
3- And most importantly get a good therapist for the kids and for all of you. There will be times that the kids will ask questions you will not be able to answer on your own...like why did Mommy leave, was it my fault does she hate me was it your fault etc etc....A quick talk with the therapist will help get the words and sentiment out in a non harmful matter. If you are anything like I was-angry, hurt, and scarred for my children- it maybe hard to not answer back things like -she is crazy, or a b*tch. And they will need therapy for themselves this is a hard time especially if they feel abandoned. If you need financial aid a lot of city's have therapy on a sliding income scale. If not do your res each and get a really good one that specializes in abandonment issues.

Good luck, let me know how it goes please. :-)

Answer 6

With the court's permission supervised visitation usually occurs in an office at Children's Services, or the court house itself. That should be established when all the legalities are done with. Remember that supervised visitation should include a non-participatory third party in the room at all times, not just an isolated room with the door closed. As a foster parent myself, there were many times I heard about stories of non-custodial parents trying to do away with their kids or do away with themselves in presence of their kids because no one else was in the room. Just something to think about. Blessings =)

Answer 7

You can do that at Child Protective Services, which would be great because they keep a record of the visit. It may be traumatic for the kids so you may ask a CPS worker to come to the park with you, your husband, the kids and their mom. The best defense is documentation and getting CPS involved. Ask your attorney for suggestions as well.

Answer 8

DO NOT have this supervised visitation at either of ya'lls homes!
Have them in a public place!...More witnesses.
At this point you need to play the legal game.....remove the monster from the children's lives!Gonna be hard to do...seen it myself.
Just keep records.This woman sounds like she'll screw herself.She probably keeps getting into trouble that you don't know about.Do a Google on her.Ya might come up with a criminal record that might just get her out of your lives.

Answer 9

I would ask your local police department and tell them the situation, if they can't help you go to DSS......they are always looking after kids in those situations....whatever you do....have someone there that isn't a family member. But someone that can take control of the situation right then and there.

Best wishes on getting sole custody

Answer 10

This is a very tempermental dilemma. I think you should check with the Church (if you belong), or the school. She does not sound real stable, or to have the children's best interest in mind. As far as the threats, be smart and report them. There are already too many devastated children, who she may have been one herself.