Now that I'm thin and buff, should I try to get him back? I still have fellings for him, but he cheated on me.
2006-08-14 10:47:13 · 19 answers · asked by jhs80123 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Obviously you still have feelings for this guy, but re-establishing trust after betrayal is a very difficult thing to do ... regardless of the amount of love you have for him.
Now that he's betrayed your love and your trust in HIM, and should you get back together, there will always be a small voice inside of you questioning his sincerity and loyalty [to you].
It appears he wasn't seeing the REAL you; rather, he was seeing what he wanted to see and what *physically* appealed to him. In short, he cared about an illusion and not you. In fact, I cannot reasonably say that he cared about you to actually LOVE you. Someone just doesn't end a [serious and devoted] relationship because of weight gain.
Don't place yourself in another position of vulnerability. Be kind to yourself. As someone said earlier: There are a lot of fish in the sea and there's one out there waiting just for you.
Respect yourself.
Love yourself.
Be good to yourself.
Best Wishes!
2006-08-14 23:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!! He is superficial and hollow. That is mean to cheat on someone and break up with them over losing weight. Has he forgetten that in 20 years he will not be quite the stud he is today? Would that give you the right to cheat on him and leave him? No! I think now that you're thin and buff you need to go find someone else who not only appreciates what you have below the neck but also appreciates what you have between your ears
Good luck =)
2006-08-14 23:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is shallow, you should go find someone else that will accept you for you, and not how much you weigh, or how big your dick is. There are TONS of gay shallow people out there that put down people because they might be small in size or a little too overweight. Its just the way the gay community works. You should get back with him, because there is a bigger chance of him cheating on you again.
It will only hurt you more and more if you continue to be with him, time to try someone new.
2006-08-15 14:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It doesn't matter if you still have feelings for him he cheated on you unless you like that kind of treatment. I think that now that you are thin and buff it isn't going to matter he's still going to cheat and he going to worry if you are cheating because now you are thin and buff. It would never work again. It might work sexually but definetly not relationship wise.
2006-08-14 18:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Necole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am culturally an Italian, and we spend most of our lives- maybe even the entirety of our lives, for whatever reason- culturally, socially, hereditarily- being chubby, overweight, or just plain fat. I mean, props to you for getting fit and all, but I would never date anyone who would be that shallow. Learn the basic lesson from overweight Italians; someone to love you no matter what shape you are in.
The fact that he cheated on you is even more troubling. What is the depth of your relationship? Obviously if he felt bored enough to cheat on you when you had lost a little of your looks, then you were just his booty call anyway,
Move on. You deserve better.
You are better than this creep.
2006-08-14 20:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Fancy Pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY? What a jerk he was. Give yourself a break and love yourself just a little more. For the looks of the outside, although I believe should be the best example you can present to the world, are certainly not the end to all and should not be, does it occur to you that this guys has shown where he stands and would desert you again, only next time could it because your are ill, etc.
Please, give yourself a break, and look around, for as they say:
"there are many more fish in the deep blue sea"
2006-08-14 17:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you and you broke up all due to you having put on a few pounds, why on earth would you want him back? Do you want to live the rest of your days obsessing about your weight and wondering who he's with when he's ten minutes late coming home from work? I say, "Good riddance!"
2006-08-14 20:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve that. Find a man that will be faithful to you even if you gain that weight back. A man who would dump you for that will just find another flaw in you. He seems to have an illusion that you have to be perfect.
2006-08-14 17:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most couples find it extremely difficult to re-establish trust in this situation. Loving someone doesn't mean you should live with them, or go out with them. Love is often just not enough.
I would advise you to look for someone less shallow in his views.
2006-08-14 17:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you forgiven him?
Is he just going to do the same thing again?
What if you gain weight again?
Seems like you are just asking for more heartache!
2006-08-14 17:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋