I dont know what I should say to her
2006-08-14 10:42:21 · 21 answers · asked by championredhots 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was pregnant when I was nineteen. I wasn't overly thrilled by the idea, but so many people congratulated me (whatever their real feelings were) that I got to feeling better about it. My daughter is grown now and I think she is a wonderful person, so it worked out OK. I didn't have any friends to talk to then, but I sure would have appreciated having had someone that I could talk to who would have sympathized with and understood my situation!
2006-08-14 10:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At least she is not like my sister. My sister had a baby at the age of 16. We just tried to help her the best we could. I'm sure your friend is not happy about having a baby this young, but she has to make the best of it. Just support her with what ever decision she makes. If it be to keep it, put it up for adoption, or to have an abortion. What ever it is just be there for her. She will need you for support more than ever. Tell her you are there for her what ever she may need.
2006-08-14 17:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Q~T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in your position about 3 years ago.
My best friend got pregnant at our prom and a couple of weeks later she told me. It was really hard to deal with at first, we both had a lot of dreams we built together. We were going to move in together, go to college together, and have a great time. All of that was shattered, but then I realized...
What's more important than a beautiful baby? When Maliyah came, she changed my friend. She became responsible, mature, and extremely motherly.
Be happy for her, having a baby turned my best friend into an even better person, and I hope that happens for your friend too :)
2006-08-14 19:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by cutiewithabooooty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no celebration in an unwed mother having a baby at a young age of 19. If you do not support her simply say "I wish you luck." Personally if I were the mother of this child I would tell her to consider giving this baby up for adoption to a loving married couple who can't have children of their own. She is selling her child short by being an unwed teenager mother. How selflish.
Why would it be rude not to be happy or congratulate someone if you don't support them on something? That isn't rude. Would you support someone on drugs? Would you support someone who drove drunk? Saying good luck is enough.
2006-08-14 17:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi
I think you say this because she is very young and probably not married, if this is the case remember that above anything she is your friend and it doesn´t matters if you approve this baby or not, think that she needs you more than ever as a support, as a friend, as a sister. Also you should not forget that a true friendship is tested in the worst situation.
2006-08-14 17:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by rechyeva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer if you are happy for her. If you are not, then do not lie to her, yet you do not need to offer the fact that you are not happy for her either. Reflect on your feelings, and anything positive, then share with her. Anything not, then keep to your self. If she is pregnant, then she should not stress out and just be there for her like a true friend would be.
2006-08-18 09:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she happy about this? Planned, or was it an accident? In any case you should be supportive. If she is happy about this, then support her decision and help her out. This will be a trying, scary, exhausting, exciting time in her life- and she'll need a good friend.
2006-08-14 17:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy yes but if she is depressed about it be a good shoulder. I was excited when I got pregnant at 19. So ask her how she feels about it and go from there. Good Luck
2006-08-14 17:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes not saying anything is best and just be there for her. She will need that more than anything with all the emotions and changes that are about to take place. Hope this helps-- :)
A baby- how wonderful. :)
2006-08-14 17:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by yeppers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why wouldnt you be happy for her? thats very rude of you not to, goodness. not close friends i take it? you should be happy your friend is pregnant. unless your just a miserable person or jealous. just say i am happy for you. but if your that mean about it, dont say anything at all, gosh thats so rude to even say anything mean to her about being pregnant, itll bring her down, or ruin your friendship. just dont say anything.
2006-08-14 21:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by jessnclh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋