What do you do when your wife will not even clean up after herself?

Question

I travel alot and when i get home the house looks like hell. She will not even pick up after the kids. They are 5 and 3 years old.

Answer 1

This question has been asked by women and men for ages and ages. You need to ask your self the following questions: 1) does she work too? 2) Was she raised messy? 3) Have you talked about it before? 4) is it something that you two have different opinions about? i.e. are you just pickier than she 5) Is it worth fighting over? Sounds to me like it is time for a deep down heart to heart. This may also be a sign of depression. Good Luck.....

Answer 2

Talking to her is the best way to approach this subject. Let her know that this is something that bothers you,(respectfully of course) and ask her if she needs a little help with the household chores. I know you said that you travel a lot for your job but she has a job as well, taking care of the children. Never place yourself or your work above her and what she deals with all day. Taking care of little ones can be a really tiresome task and that can leave any women feeling like nothing matters. I truely hope that everything turns out ok for you and your little family.

Answer 3

I don't have all details and its just ur side of story. Honestly with two kids and you being away most of the time, it can be quite a task. 5 years and 3 years is the age when kids are so demanding. She can be simply too tired to do all that stuff. Try talking to her n see if u or anyone else can be of some help. Don't just write her off by these accusations

Answer 4

Ok she may not want to clean but I say you confront her and ask her to start cleaning after herself. I'm not saying that thats a wifes job but she should have the respect for her husband kids and her house. Even if it means to clean only up after the kids and herself she has to do something.

Answer 5

I am the same way...not saying it is good, but I can relate...Can you afford to have a maid or someone come in and clean up your house. I don't know her situation (if she is a stay-at-home mom or not) but for me I work full time and get tired at night (my kids are 6 and 2). Anyhow, as much as I wanted to, I just couldn't do it and me and my husband are now separated (not just because of the cleaning)...just remember one problem leads to the next...if you truly love your wife then try to get a maid...if you can't afford it, try budgeting your money because it really seems like she needs it...

Answer 6

You should talk to your wife and find out what is going on. She may be depressed. Not wanting to do normal things could be a sign of depression. Talk to her and see if she's ok - see if she wants to see a doctor or counselor and tell her that you understand and support her if she does. If she doesn't then you should tell her that the house needs to be cleaned and you just want to know why she isn't doing her job.

Answer 7

w/e you do, don't ask her why she's not doing her JOB- that will simply piss her off. (trust me on that,ok) just ask her why the house is out of order, and is she's ok. Like someone else said, she might be depressed, you said you travel a lot, that might be the reason for her being depressed is she is depressed....I know that would be my reason- anyway- good luck and I hope it all works out!

Answer 8

hey on TLC there is a show called something like Save Your Marriage in Seven Days, and this week it has a guy with the same exact problem.... look it up in the TV guide and watch it.... i know i am, the husband is always bitching at his wife who it doesn't look like does crap, and hopefully they will get them straightened out, and maybe that will point you on the right path.

Answer 9

Let me tell you, bitching is not the answer.

I dont have an answer.

It is not pretty or fun.

You have to do it yourself and work all day and play with the kids and get up through the night with them.

I tried to get her on anti-depressant but she refused.

Answer 10

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