i just tld my bf that i wanted him to be gentle because this will be my first time and all, and he told me that he'll be easy but i heard him kind of laugh, so does this mean that he is going to be rough or does this mean that he is going to be easy and take it with me because it will be more painful my first time than pleasureable!What would you do in this situation?Would you be gentle or be rough and not care about the woman?Help!!!!!
2006-08-14 10:20:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
he is so good to me, i just want it to be nice and enjoyable for me not painful and to say the least i'm a bit scared!
2006-08-14 10:26:58 · update #1
ok he is down stairs waiting on me and i am all dressed, but please hurry give me answers what should i say to him to let him know that i am serious and i want him ot be gentle,I am shaking right now!
2006-08-14 10:32:12 · update #2
Ok here goes nothing!
2006-08-14 10:35:00 · update #3
Hahaha, you make me laugh too.
Laugh just because the way you say it make you really cute!! (Honestly. Not trying to impress you or whatever..)
I think he will be gentle and take good care of you.
Don't need to worry. =)
2006-08-14 10:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by City hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know a man so well on an emotional and mental level before you have sex with him to know if he'll be gentle. If you don't feel you trust him MOST completely, hold off for a bit. It's not a raise, and the only person who will lose will be you. But if you truly believe he's the right one to bestow this honor on, then tell him to bring lube as well as condoms. One is not more embarassing than the other to buy, and they are both EQUALLY important your first time.
2006-08-14 10:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend starts getting rough with you, have him stop. The first time is very painful, and the next like 5 times will be also. But if he truly cares about you, he'll be gentle. My first time was gentle, and he told me," cause me the pain i'm causing you" so what i did was dig my nails into his back, his whole back was all scratched up and bleeding. He needs to take your feelings and your pain into consideration, if he's rough with you the first time it may cause medical problems.
2006-08-14 10:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by ally 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, its your first time and it is gonna hurt. Well, it depends on his size and how you take pain, it doesn't hurt like real bad or anything, but you do get a bit of pleasure. Its gonna hurt because your vagina hasn't expanded in its size and it will have something bigger in it and it will stretch the vaginal walls. You will bleed a little, but its not a bad sign, it means 'You have had your cherry popped!' But for real, just calm down, it won't be that bad. And remember you always have that choice to back out, you don't have to go through with it if you don't want to!
2006-08-14 10:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me see, why would he laugh...
He wanted maybe to help you get rid of your worries about that. I don't think he would be rough with you, laughter is a way of releasing the tension. He was not mocking or planning to play a trick on you in that important moment. Men are concerned about satisfying the woman, he wants you to like it! So do what he said and take it easy, just let yourself go and enjoy.
2006-08-14 10:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would be gentle, if you asked like that. Doesn't sound like he would. You sure you want your first time to be with this guy?
2006-08-14 10:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by jfahd 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its good that way, its only gonna be one time that its gonna be painful, that is if it is, and from there on you'll never experience that feeling again. So let him be as rough as he wants, its only that one time forever that your gonna experience the first pleasure. Are you not excited?
2006-08-14 10:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by See ya later aligator 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First...11 is too young to have sex. Two..I dont think youre 11. most likely an older guy. Three..youve asked over a dozen questions about this.
Either Way....GET OVER IT
2006-08-14 10:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking this question here? The person you should be talking to about this is your boyfriend who if what you say is true sounds a little sadistic. I think until I knew him better I would keep my panties on.
2006-08-14 10:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means he doesnt know what he's talking about and he's not that experienced. It was probably a nervous laugh.
2006-08-14 10:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋