I have been friends with this guy for a really long time. Recently when he comes over things come up missing. Mostly money, ciggs, and small things you could fit into your pocket. I've never caught him in the act so i can't really prove it. When i asked him about it he said he would never do anything like that. But i know it's him, it couldn't be anybody else. What should i do? And is there anyway we can still be friends?
2006-08-14 10:01:13 · 36 answers · asked by Danielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Things really do go missing on there own sometimes.
Try tidying up a bit so there is nothing lying around that will go into a pocket. Maybe he has hit hard times and has no money at all, but is too embarassed to mention it. Next time he comes, buy him a packet of his favourite cigs, and watch the reaction on his face when you give them to him.
Don't dump him if everytthing else is ok.
2006-08-21 20:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did do it he have some guilt on his part sooner or later he will tell you the truth. Oh but I forgot this is the real world and people just keep bad things to themselves. Well if you feel as thought he took all them things don't let him back in your house and when he ask you why he can't come over tell him that you won't have no company until you found out who stole all your belongings.
2006-08-22 09:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by babygirlhollaataplaya2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your friend may have a problem--have you noticed anything different about him? Could it be a drug problem possibly? I recommend the simplest thing here--dont' invite him over anymore, instead go meet him. If you do this after a while and feel that you trust him again then I say remain friends...but right now it sounds to me like there is no trust left between you, and that is hard to deal with.
Confront him and ask him...he could have a problem and he may need your help.
2006-08-22 07:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you still want to be friends with someone who lies to you and steals from you, no matter how small the items are. In order to have any kind of relationship there has to be some kind of trust. Confront him and tell him that when he learns how to be a friend then come back but until then do not darken my door stoop
2006-08-21 17:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by mysticideas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have him over, go to his place or meet somewhere else, he sounds like he has a problem. Or put everything away and don't leave him alone. Plant some things that you know around and make sure you look for them before he leaves and then ask him before he leaves if some are missing
2006-08-14 10:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by teamkimme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Agree to meet elsewhere--his house, a coffee shop or similar, the mall...and if he goes to yours, don't watch his face, watch his hands. I had to do this in a gift shop I worked in. They distract you with talk and things vanish. It would be very hard to be friends with someone you think is ripping you off.
You might ask others of his friends if they've had stuff go missing.
2006-08-22 07:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a trap or just sit him down and ask him to be truly honest with you. He should not have a problem with doing that if he is a true friend. If that does not work then cut him off completely until he gets his life in order.
2006-08-20 05:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sure are you? Is he the only one ever invited to the house and you check immediately after he's gone? Don't invite him to your house anymore and start locking up things you don't want to lose. The only way you could know for sure is if you've taped him doing it -- or no one lives in your home or comes visiting.
2006-08-20 01:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Stop giving him the opportunity. If you can't bring yourself to end the friendship altogether (which is honestly what I'd advise since he apparently thinks nothing of lying to you and trying to make you feel guilty for calling him on his unacceptable behaviour), then at the very least stop letting him into your house.
2006-08-14 10:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such behavior speaks volumes about weather you can trust this person or not...and you already know you can't and that he is a liar too....don't put all your eggs in his basket because you will more than likely end up with nothing ....He can be a friend but one who can only be trusted so far.
2006-08-14 10:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋