i am friends with a guy that has turned out to be my supervisor and we are both attracted to each other...we hang out -outside of work and we both feel the tensoin between us...i thought about switching jobs but i make real good money and i really dont want to go to another job...we have talked about the situation and he is leaving the decision up to me...HELP...and be real i need real advice not smartass ones thank-you
2006-08-14 09:46:04 · 8 answers · asked by glenda d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If your both single, then what's the problem?? You don't feel like you can have a relationship outside work with someone whose your supervisor on the job?? If you like your job, and your income, I wouldn't recommend you quit your job. Are you worried about how the other employees would react?? It's really none of there business if you or your supervisor want to have a relationship. It's not there life, it's yours. I'm sure there are a lot of little details you didn't include in your question that would shed a little bit more light on this situation.
2006-08-14 10:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very dangerous and difficult position. If you really like the money and weight that the relationship with this person is not as worthy as the money that you are being comepnsated for in this position. Stay with the job. But you have to make it clear to this supervisor/friend, that you can no lnger keep hanging ou with him afterwork and seeking a possible relationship. IT's simply a "conflict of interest". If you guys try to keep it on the down low. This is a recipe for failure and ultimately you are playing with your job. If things go bad between you and you become intimate and he finds someone else he might find ways to cut you loose out of sheer principles. you have to determine whats really important. Your security or this guy...
2006-08-14 16:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to find out what your work policy is regarding dating. If it is prohibited then don't do it or you both could lose your jobs. Second you need to figure out how this will affect your work environment. How will other co-workers deal with this, how will his supervisor deal with this, what will happen if you two break up and end up hating each other? Work romances are hard enough normally but when it is with your supervisor then it is going to be doubly tough. Unless your positive both of you can deal with what ever happens you should avoid getting involved.
2006-08-14 16:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are positioning yourself on a difficult situation. My husband and I met at work, thank God we are in totally different departments. I can't imagine having him as my supervisor. It is impossible to stay professional if you and your supervisor have something going on. If you love your job as much as you say you do, it's probably best you guys avoid any kind of relationship other than friendship. And at times even that can be difficult. Imagine if you guys ever end that relationship? Chances are it wont be in good terms. It would be a horrible place for you to work at.
Just think if its worth it... good luck
2006-08-14 16:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Hotcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough one, but you have to think he is really worth it or making money is worth it. Because from my experience its not good to date a guy from work, cause what if things go bad and he can be a real asshole and really bother you at work. Thats what happened to me. He cursed me out cause i never wanted to go out with him again cause i found out he is not my type of guy. It was hard for me to work. I really like my job and never wanted to leave but thank god he left couple months after cause he got a better job with his family.
So my advice tell him you just want to keep the realtionship at a professional level that he is a really nice guy but u dont want to date anys guy that you work with.
2006-08-14 16:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by sexygt29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...that is an interesting dilemma--date your supervisor or remain friends? Personally, I wouldn't do it but I am not you. If things don't work out, can you transfer to another department? Think carefully before you proceed. He is right that the decision is yours and yours alone to make.
2006-08-14 16:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I date someone at work and as long as you can keep the two parts of you life seperate then this is okay. However it is very tricky and in the end one of you will have to move on.
2006-08-14 16:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by smutmonkey71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT RELATIONSHIPS AND WORK DO NOT MIX.
2006-08-14 16:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by kscottbrady2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋