How do i confront my fiance if i think he's cheating on me?????

Question

IHow do i confront my fiance if i think he's cheating on me????? dont want it too seem like i was snooping threw his stuff i need a way too do it so there is no arguement cause theres two kids in the house HELP

Answer 1

Now.... let me repeat you what you said " I think he is cheating on me"
If you think the first step you want to take is to "make sure"

The best way to do it is to calm down and put yourself together... remember an easy answer is better than a strong answer that brings fire to the conversation.

talk to hi..tell him...
"look it seems to me that you are changing, I just see it happening and I don not know what to do?

It is me or is there something new that you might want to let me know?

you are important to me and I want you with me only if you are going to keep our relationship save...which means no cheating and no lies...

bue between questions "let him talk" do not jump in the middle of his conversation.... show him respect and then he will be able to tell you...
Now in case he says "I foudn another person and i wanat to be with her".... then...yo will act like a princes "calm down and ask him to consider....if not... tell him to leave and be strong"
but if he says "no i'm no cheating" the tell him
I've been thinking and I believe with my heart that this is a good time for you and I to make this relationship a more mature one...I'd like to get married...
and see what se says...

Answer 2

First, ask him to have a private time together. Get a baby sitter. Go somewhere that you will have some privacy. Maybe a park or a place where you can sit with distance between you and others.

You then need to say very clearly you love him

Then say that you are afraid of something and would like to share it with him.

Then put forward what you have found and why this makes you feel insecure.

Listen without interrupting to everything he says at that point. If he begins to attack you then you need to ask him to simply make clear if he has been cheating or not

There is no way to assure he will not get mad

You will have to determine if you believe him

I pray God help you through this difficult process.

Answer 3

First of all what makes you THINK he is cheating on you? Next it sounds to me like you will not be content until you do find him guilty of something because you have him tried and convicted in Yahoo and have not mentioned one shred of evidence.
Next, are you going to trust people you do not even know or have any active interest in you or your children to tell you what to do to try and catch your husband at something that you don't even know for sure he is doing?
if you are wrong then who suffers? The Kids. My advise to you is that you investigate your allegations until you have definitive proof and when you do have a credible witness there to back you up in court and stop trying to go on a fishing expedition in Yahoo. If you were following him around right now instead of playing Yahoo detective you might get that proof but until then you got squat which is what you will be doing in a bowl that you have to use for a toilet if you are wrong and you confront him. .

Answer 4

It sounds like you were snooping through his stuff...just fess up...he's wrong for cheating (if he is) but you were wrong to invade his privacy...

If you are afraid an argument will ensue, have the discussion away from the kids...

Just remember, if you are wrong you could be ending your relationship regardless...so be sure of your facts and have evidence ready...it may prove you snooped, but that's what you did and you need to take responsibility for it...if you don't make a copy of your evidence, you may find it'll have disappeared after the conversation...

Answer 5

Start by asking "are you happy"? Depending on his answer, take it from there. If you don't think he's being honest, you may have to consider getting a friend to help you follow him. What will you do if you find out he is cheating? The reason I ask is that if you find out that he is, will you leave? If you're not prepared to do anything about it, why bother?
Good luck, it's better to know than to remain in the dark.

Answer 6

did you find something while you were snooping? If you truly think he is cheating...you sit down and talk to him...the more you scream and accuse, the further he is going to distance himself from you. sit down and tell him what you think. He will deny it...let him know that under no circumstances will you allow this to happen...that if you catch him that you will rip off his nuts, take the kids and he can spend the rest of his miserable life alone....

Answer 7

Nope. Stop worrying about the argument. Think about your kids. Would you rather argue in front of them, or them to get hurt when they find out for themselves that he's cheating on you? he's just your fiance. They're your kids. They need to come first. If he's cheating, get rid of him. and if he is, do you honestly think he will be honest?

Answer 8

So you only think he's cheating? If you only think this but don't know for sure...don't say anything yet. Find out for sure. Now if you have proof he's cheating, and you are going to dump his sorry butt, then you should let him know you know by cutting the crotch out of all his pants and throw them on the front porch.

Answer 9

humm, this is difficult. I think if you have significant proof you should have a civil conversation and see what he has to say about it. Maybe it's not what it seems. If you think it might get ugly maybe you should have someone watch your kids out of the house for a little bit. It's traumatizing to hear parents argue. Good luck.

Answer 10

Ask him if he denies it then watch how he changes,men change like an 8 day clock(emotionally) and their routines get sloppy when there cheating and they don't always do what they say they are going to do and/be where they say their going and if he doesn't come hm some nights then there is your ans. i had a man like i described and we have a 3 yr old together,but my new husband and i are raising him together.