Should we get married???????????

Question

I have been with my partner for 11 years now we have 2 kids.
So should we get married or just be happy the way we are?????????

My partner is a man for those of you that thought I was a lesbien!

Answer 1

HELL NO!

Marriage will either make you stronger destroy what you have.

If your happy don't change it.

Answer 2

What is most important is what you feel for each other and HOW YOU DEAL with the daily differences (if any) or quarrels (if any). If you have major differences and do not really want to be committed then it does not matter whether you signed a piece of paper like a marriage contract or not. You will go separate ways.

One advantage of a public marriage (legal only) is that you can file joint tax returns (if the figures come up right).

The mere fact that you have lasted 11 years together is a very good sign that you belong together. Maybe you are asking this question now because something has come up to threaten this relationship and you feel you need something external to bind you together more strongly. The answer to your question will always have to come from you and how you both feel.

Answer 3

Marriage is a ceremony that is mainly for the public's eyes and love u all share is in d heart it is left up to u guys if u want ur family and friends to know the love that u all share or u could just keep it the way it is. And don't 4get marriage is also a symbol of lifetime commitment. if u want to get married do a small simple wedding and don't go wasting plenty of money then after the wedding people will stil talk about u guys. Have ur closest relatives at the wedding. People like the bride, groom, best man, matron of honor, ur kids and both u guys parents and brothers and sisters if u wish. Just a suggestion

Answer 4

Personally i think that as soon as a couple get married, everything changes.
Now days, here in the UK its not such a hhuman outcry if a couple lives together without being married, unlike it was years ago! Once your married, its as if different thingsare expected from u both, theres more pressure, which is strange as you might not have had the pressure before!
I know lots of couples that have kids together, seem to have been together 4eva but within about 12 months of marriage to each other its all gone, they split up!!!
Why risk everything you both have and share for marriage?!
Stay how you are, your both happy..why change it?

Answer 5

Its what ever is right for u. if u wanna walk down the isle and be married then do it... if u are happy with the way things are now then leave it how it is... just remember its just a piece of paper.. but to some people that paper is very important... i personally could not last that long...lol i cant wait to marry my man... do what makes u both happy.... by the sounds of it u two will be happy either way

Answer 6

Marriage is up to each individual couple. You have to decide if it is something important to you and if getting married would add to your happiness in life. After 11 years together you are viewed by the legal system as essentially married for most things. Personally I feel being married adds to a relationship. Plus it will enhance the strength of your family and the future of your kids.

Answer 7

Marriage can be fun or not. Look at Elton and David, together forever it seems and now married happily.
Or Charles and Camillia.

It could be the back bone of your relationship in future or it could be the one thing to change everything and tear you apart.

Only you and he can decide this though. Asking such an important question of a bunch of strangers is really not a good thing. Even the ones who sincerely want to help as none of us knows you or him or the children to know the dynamics of what you have.

Answer 8

aaah girl, that's really sad man...how do you feel in the relationship? are you happy? do you feel like you should take it to the next level and make it official?

difficult decision - all depends on yourself. nobody can decide for you.

marriage is sacred and should be respected - you should do it cause you want to - cause you feel that's the right thing and you want your partner as a life partner, not just as a partner. 2 souls connecting.

good luck & i wish you guys all the best whatever the 2 of you decide.

we all deserve happiness in life

Answer 9

Why mess with a good thing..but why not go and celebrate with all your family and friends..just like a wedding.. celebrate your love for each other. I don't believe in huge weddings...take a vacation with your family instead...the money spent on your time together will be better spent than some lavish wedding...the kind that more than half the couples waste their money on..just because everyones else does it that way. Be happy for what you have now...and good luck on any plans you make...

Answer 10

You've been together 11 years.Will getting married change anything? I mean other than "who's gonna get what when we divorce?"? That's probably already decided,being as how either one of ya'll could declare common law marriage,assuming you guys live together.
Maybe one of you needs to get the other on their insurance plan,but can't 'cuz yer not married.
I would think that by now ya'll would have that figured out.You're askin' the wrong bunch of people.

Answer 11

Marriage has become alot less common these days - partly due to how expensive the divorse it! Sounds like what you have at the moment is great, and if it needs that extra umph then yeah go for it, im sure your kids will love it! But these days you don't need marraige to signify your love and comitment to each other.
So basically its nothing you need to rush into, but if its something you want to make your life that little bit special then go for it!
But don't if you think it may ruin what youve already got