drive and I am sure i've never had an orgasm. I used to think it was him doing the wrong things, but I'm starting to think it's me. What can I do??
2006-08-14 09:36:59 · 19 answers · asked by Roseann 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Low libido (low sexual desire), is a very common problem for many women after childbirth or for those on birth control. It can also happen to young women or women of all ages. The cause is usually a hormonal imbalance.
There are many type of herbal supplements that can help you regain your libido. Horny Goat weed and Ginseng are good products, and there are also combination herbal supplments that work even better, I have heard that Boom is a real good one. The trick with kerbal supplements is finding the right one that works best for you because it all depends on how your body reacts to it. It may take some time and money to find the right one and once you do, I would recommend sticking with it. Here is a link to a web site that sells all kinds of herbal supplments for low libido and orgasm pleasure.
http://www.herballoveshop.com/health_concern/women/low_sex_drive.asp
http://www.herballoveshop.com/health_concern/women/orgasm_difficulty.asp
2006-08-14 10:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by lignebur72 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try different things, experiment, different positions, etc. I am guessing you never had an orgasm with anyone else if you are not sure if you had one. The woman on top position is more likely to give you an orgasm as you get more stimulation. As far as a low sex drive goes it can be a result of many things such as being overweight, depression, stress, thyroid problems. So if that continues, you should see a doctor.
2006-08-14 16:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tazaor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself checked by a doctor obviously (Don't be embaressed to talk about these things with them because it is often a sign there is something wrong that can be helped), You should have had an orgasm 10 years ago.
2006-08-14 16:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your boyfriend have problems getting it up (an erection)? Have you asked your boyfriend why he doesn't initiate sex? If you are hardly ever having sex then it’s quite understandable that you haven’t experienced an orgasm. You must talk to your man before you start blaming yourself. If you want to try to get things going, have you tried getting glammed up and making sexual suggestions to him? As far as the orgasm is concerned, it’s up to you to guide your lover and/or practice on your own to achieve one... lovers aren't mind readers! They can do things to you that MIGHT work but only you know what really will with trial and error.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-14 16:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know What? This isn't funny! I am a man, and at 54 years of living I have been with some beautiful women! This lack of sex drive is a very bad problem! Damn he could love you to death, but isn't feeling the satisfaction of sex. Wow woman I wish there was a magic formula I could give you, but there isn't. I had a beautiful wide, and she is still a beautiful woman, we have been divorced since 1982, we liked one another, and still sort of love one another, but not sexually compatible. I am a mans man, I am a veteran, I am liked by woman. There was just something abut us that didn't click! Man that isn't taking anything away from her, and I don't think anything aways from me! She is beautiful, and I was handsome! ( too old now to be handsome!) She is still beautiful, but I am old!
Sometimes in life we just don't have it together! It doesn't mean we don love one another, or respect one another, it just means that we don't have it together! Damn we still “love” one another! It just didn't work out!
2006-08-14 16:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have problems with sex, you should both look over books about sexual intercourse and see in what way you can get an orgasm. Once you get to that point the rest will fall into place.
2006-08-14 16:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women have crazy hormones and can play havoc with their sex drive and their ability to have an orgasm. Talk to your GYN and have her take some blood tests to check your testosterone levels. You don't have to live like that, there's help available.
2006-08-14 16:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mate for life will give you an orgasm. Move on until you find the one. Don't be like the huge percentage of women who don't have an orgasm. It's not them, but they are just biologically not into their mate, and they should have had sex before marriage to find out, or not so desperate for a man's attention. And I'm retarded, and I know this.
2006-08-14 16:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
How important is sex to you? Are you overweight? Unclean? Does he work 2 jobs? Perhaps he has a low libido. If you love him and want to keep him, learn to masturbate, or, consider an affair. But that is drastic. And a no-no for many. Only you know if it is you or not. Have a heart-to-heart. Understand, men want to think they are studs when they rarely use it. It's masculine pride. Perhaps...Viagra? Work it out. It will be for the best!
2006-08-14 16:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk.....and then talk some more.Talk without being confrontational or condescending.Tell him (or even better SHOW him.....!!!) how you like to be...ummmm......manipulated.
Do you have orgasms when you masturbate? Then show him how to "play your organ".
If you can't even climax by yourself....then you probably aren't in tune with yourself.
Does your boyfriend take his time? Or is he a "two-pump-Pete"?
Tell the boy to slow down and move his mouth down south...
Or just go to a bookstore and buy a self-help manual.Don't be embarassed by buying it.....after all,they sell it.
2006-08-14 16:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Danny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋